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| 28.1 | | CSC32::K_JACKSON | Better living through alchemy! | Mon Mar 19 1990 12:15 | 9 |
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That's the kind of life I want my children to have also! I'm glad to
see everything is working out for you. Eventually, things WILL work
in my favor. I have faith but it's just real time consuming and frustrating
when I'm so far away.
Hope your relationship continues to be a good one and give those kids a
big hug from all of us!
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| 28.2 | great news | POCUS::NORDELL | | Mon Mar 19 1990 12:17 | 3 |
| John, this is the best news all day - all week! I know how apprehensive
you were about staying at the house. I'm so glad it worked out!
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| 28.3 | thanks! | FSTTOO::BEAN | Attila the Hun was a LIBERAL! | Tue Mar 20 1990 07:41 | 14 |
| John...
Thanks for sharing that story! How wonderful for you! I too, have six
kids (mine are a bit older, and some have moved away from home), and I
know the love you spoke of.
I am visiting my kids in two weeks. It'll be the first time since last
April! God, how I miss them.
I hope they receive me even half as enthusiastically as your's did.
Gosh, man, count your blessings. How great that must make you feel!
Thanks, again.
tony
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| 28.4 | Let the good times roll.. | PEKING::NASHD | Whatever happened to Capt. Beaky? | Tue Mar 20 1990 11:58 | 14 |
| This weekend I'm going to get 2 Tee shirts made with DADDY LOVES
ME put on them, and maybe a cartoon, and I'll send them to Chris
and Vicki so they can wear them on their holiday. And I sent them
a postcard at lunchtime today.
As for Easter, well my ex gave me an address where they are staying,
so Im going to send the Easter cards there.
My divorced sisted has 2 children with whom the father chooses not
to communicate. They need a father-figure, so my sister has agreed
that my wife and I can take them out for day-trips etc. Whatever
we get upto will go in a letter back to my children.
Dave
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| 28.5 | | PEKING::NASHD | Whatever happened to Capt. Beaky? | Tue Mar 20 1990 11:59 | 4 |
| ap pro pos of the last reply, I forget to add that at Easter they
will be in Florida and that's a long way from here.
Dave
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| 28.6 | some more good news! | FSTTOO::BEAN | Attila the Hun was a LIBERAL! | Thu Apr 19 1990 08:14 | 27 |
| Well, I got some good news the other day, too...so, I thought I'd share
it with you.
I called Tuesday to speak with the kids (usally only Patrick, Kami, and
Nicholas will talk with me. Dana (age 19) is still very bitter and
hasn't willingly spoken with me for nearly 2 years.
So, Patrick and the younger kids and I all had a nice chat...and I felt
really great about sharing some of their experiences with them...
Then, their mom wanted to talk. I am VERY tentative when that happens
(sort of gun-shy, I guess) because that usually results in me having to
fend off some sort of request or results in hurt feelings.
This time was different, though. It seems she wanted to tell me about
Dana's reaction to the Easter card I'd sent. Dana normally tosses
cards away in anger and gets upset. But, this time, according to her
mom, she looked up, said "that was a nice card, I think I'll keep it".
Her mom was shocked (she said this was a total reversal in behaviour)
and thought I'd like to hear about it.
*I* was shocked...and pleased. Peggy (ex's name) said "maybe Dana's
feelings towards me were beginning to change". Of course, I am
ecstatic over the possibility, but I am also pleased that her mom
was nice enuf to share it with me. She really surprizes me, sometimes.
tony who_is_hoping_Dana_will_tell_me_herself_someday!
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| 28.7 | Good News Day | CLOVE::GODIN | You an' me, we sweat an' strain. | Thu Apr 19 1990 11:31 | 24 |
| Good for you, Tony. And let's hope good for Dana, too.
And, while I'm in here, I have recently gotten some good news, too.
I recently learned that the child support I thought I'd have to pay
until each child finishes college (if they attend) actually ends when
they reach 18. Clearly an oversight in the wording of the final
decree, but at least it eases my personal situation somewhat.
Not that I'll stop supporting my daughter, who recently turned 18 and
is in college. But I am now free to set up a joint account with her
and deposit her support where she can use it directly. (She's mature
enough to use it wisely, and logistics are such that she'll probably
have me do the withdrawing and send her a check, so I'll be able to
counsel about the use of the money to some extent. Just knowing that
this is an operable plan has lifted half the weight from my shoulders.
In my case it's never been the money or the amount of child support
that has been the issue, but rather having to pay it to the kids'
father, who uses money more to control the people in his life than to
"support" their needs.
One down, one (and two years) to go!
Karen
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| 28.8 | Yeah! | DYO780::EERENBERG | Thanks for the NEW start. | Thu Apr 19 1990 12:02 | 14 |
| Tony,
Good news! I hope and pray this will be the start of a healing
in her life; this has started in yours no doubt.
It's kinda strange to actually have a decent conversation with the
ex isn't it? Maybe that will be a trend to? Maybe your daughter's
unhappiness and the relationship with your ex is related more than
we think?
Good news! Keep reaching out to your kids!
John
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| 28.9 | | FSTTOO::BEAN | Attila the Hun was a LIBERAL! | Thu Apr 19 1990 15:54 | 11 |
| I've known all along that much of my daughter's feelings towards me is
fostered by the attitude of her mother. But, Dana is 19, and sooner or
later had to "see the light". I just hope this is the start of that.
now! there are two other kids at home there...one eleven and one
fourteen. sure hope things stay "good" with them!
anyway...it IS a significant change, and even though I have not been
able to TALK with Dana...perhaps that door, too, will someday open.
tony who_hopes_to_see_a_light_at_the_end_of_the_tunnel_soon
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