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Title:Discussions of topics pertaining to men
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Moderator:QUARK::LIONELE
Created:Thu Jan 21 1993
Last Modified:Fri Jun 06 1997
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Number of topics:268
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156.0. "EX Seeking More $" by POWDML::RABOIN () Tue Feb 21 1995 15:01

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Note 87.0                       AFTER THE DIVORCE                        1 reply
POWDML::RABOIN                                       19 lines  20-FEB-1995 14:01
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    Has anyone out there had the experience of being called back
    into court after the divorce was finalized and all support payments
    completed for the purpose of the ex to request more money or alimoney?
    
    A friend of mine received a letter from his ex's lawyer asking him
    for a financial statement and for him to appear in court next week.
    
    Question:  Doesn't the court have to be petitioned by the ex's
               lawyer and then the court would send a notice if the
               request for a hearing were valid?
    
    My own feeling (and I could be wrong) was that under the circumstances,
    all payments have been made/she has the house, that he only had the
    obligation to appear if the court instructed him and not via a letter
    from a lawyer?
    
    Any opinions/experiences re similar situation.
    
    BR

    
    
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156.1MKOTS3::RAUHI survived the Cruel SpaTue Feb 21 1995 15:043
    Have the councle file a seperate motion for the ex to file a support
    affidavitt. What is she making? What are the expences she is listing
    for a shortage.
156.2CSC32::HADDOCKSaddle RozinanteTue Feb 21 1995 15:1511
    
    The laws of most states allow for "support" payments (both alimony and
    "child support") to be reviewed from time to time to see if they
    should be adjusted.  He can send the information voluntarily, or they
    can go into court and have the judge order him to supply the
    information.  The thing to do, as George said, is to get her
    information at the same time.  

    And he thought he was finisned with all that ;^).
    
    fred();
156.3Good luck on this oneGMASEC::CLARKWed Feb 22 1995 20:4013
    Does not sound good. Me brother-in-law got a continual reaming from the
    state of Maine. If this is taking place in the PRM it could be even
    worse. My poor brother-in-law was a teacher in the same school system
    as his ex. Everytime they got a raise, she took him back to court. His
    lawyer offered up as evidence what the ex was making, her present
    husband's income, what new toys they had bought, etc. Did absolutely
    no good. So, the ex got half of every raise (after he paid the taxes
    of course) and then had the nerve, when the kid turned 18 in Feb, to
    ask that "as a good Dad to continue payments until the kid got out of
    high school". He laughed loud and long. Today, after finding out what
    went on all those years , the son doesn't even speak to her and hasn't
    even seen her since he left after high school graduation. One day your
    friend will be rid of the burden - it just seems forever.