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Didn't see the show. Lived that life though. She never accussed me
of harming
the children though she once made noises about it. It was so bad that
I had to
sue to get the phone number so that I could call my daughters once a
week and
talk to them.
Now, both daughters live with me (18 & 20) and have real issues with their
mother. I wish they could have a better relationship with her for their sakes
but doubt it will ever happen. I finally "won" and I think my daughters are
better off for not having lost contact with me for a lot of reasons. They are
also going to have to go through a lot of personal counseling and growth
becasue of the abuse and pain she caused them on top of the broken family
stuff.
Looking back I know there is little if anything else I could have done that
would have helped them. There were many times when I almost got down to
their mother's level and I know now that that would have only messed up their
heads and lives more.
>AND the laws should examine each individual situation and
>award custody to the parent which is most qualified and the child wants
>to live with WITHOUT regard to the sex of the awardee.
Ideally, yeah, practically, it ain't never gonna be that way. I never sued
for custody 'cause I knew I could never "prove" how abusive, manipulative and
genreally harmful she was for the children. I also knew that, if she didn't
just disappear with them (and she tried once) that she would make life even
worse for them through loyalty issues. In a contested case the courts will
need proof of who is better for the children and that is damned hard and
very expensive to prove. Doesn't mean things don't need to change, they do.
Doesn't mean the system is fair to fathers, it isn't. Just means it is not
going to be an easy or inexpensive thing to fix.
my $0.02
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