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| 648.1 | | USWRSL::SHORTT_LA | Everything I do... | Wed Sep 18 1991 17:57 | 10 |
| >I don't want to hurt my partner and want to let them down easy.
Too late. There is no such thing as letting them down easy.
Be up front and truthful...a quick cuts hurts the least. Then give
the person some space and time to decide if they still wish to be
your friend.
L.J.
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| 648.2 | kind, clean, complete | TYGON::WILDE | why am I not yet a dragon? | Wed Sep 18 1991 18:26 | 17 |
| make it clear that you respect the other person's feelings, and that you care
enough to want to make the transition as easy as possible for both of you.
And then end it - say that you don't wish to see this person again in clear,
concise language, WITH NO AMBIGUITIES possible. If this person really cares,
there will be a period of grasping at straws of hope. If you truly cannot
offer hope, you must make that clear from the start. And, PLEASE, don't:
1) promise to call, or say you will keep in touch...it won't help
if you do keep the promise, and if you don't keep the promise,
you administer another slap to self-esteem.
2) promise to 'be friends'. Later, maybe, if both are healed, you
can be friends. Not now.
3) have a 'last fling' or touch this person in any way....if sex
has been a part of this relationship, STOP NOW. If you do not,
your companion will feel really 'used'.
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| 648.3 | Be Honest | HAMPS::HAWKINS_B | | Thu Sep 19 1991 08:24 | 3 |
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re note 1 - a quick cut also heals quickest!
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| 648.4 | | AIMHI::RAUH | Home of The Cruel Spa | Thu Sep 19 1991 10:43 | 2 |
| How about never getting involved in the first place? Or how about
telling him/her that the Stars are in retrograde?
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| 648.5 | | CSCMA::BALDWIN | | Thu Sep 19 1991 15:14 | 13 |
| re: Here are some more ways to leave your lover (in a lighter vein):
1) Run away ("a-run-run-run-run_RUN AWAY!")
2) Walk away...briskly
3) Take a train (a fast train, of course)
4) Take a jetplane (hey it worked for Peter, Paul, and Mary)
5) Take a boat (a fast speedboat, preferrably)
6) Hire a hitman...so you won't *have* to leave
7) Take a bicycle (do they make "Thirty-speed" bikes?)
8) Roller skate (jet propelled usually is recommended)
9) Take a limousine (cheuffeured by a "Playmate" caliber model)
10) Or any approach recommended by comedian Sam Kinison (which I
couldn't repeat in notes) *;') *;') *;')
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| 648.6 | | AIMHI::RAUH | Home of The Cruel Spa | Thu Sep 19 1991 15:30 | 6 |
| Under a moving train
A colt 45
A pent house window
Also with humor!
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| 648.7 | | JURAN::SILVA | Ahn eyu ahn | Thu Sep 19 1991 17:00 | 8 |
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| How about never getting involved in the first place? Or how about
| telling him/her that the Stars are in retrograde?
Heh heh..... spoken from George Martini! ;-)
Glen
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| 648.8 | | WAHOO::LEVESQUE | Guess I'll set a course and go... | Thu Sep 19 1991 17:18 | 1 |
| You mean Darryl Martini, the cosmic muffin.
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| 648.9 | Well, this is what I did | YUPPY::DAVIESA | Herd it through the bovine | Fri Sep 20 1991 10:13 | 18 |
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- Say what you need to say succinctly and calmly
- LISTEN to their reaction
- Don't fight
- Don't blame
- Don't accuse
- Don't drag up old arguments
- Make arrangments before you tell them (somewhere else to live/stay
for a while till you get your own place, maybe?)
- Make a graceful exit
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| 648.10 | Just do it! | TALLIS::TORNELL | | Fri Sep 20 1991 12:11 | 1 |
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| 648.11 | | AIMHI::RAUH | Home of The Cruel Spa | Fri Sep 20 1991 12:45 | 9 |
| Glen,
Years ago, when folks wore butt length hair, painted VW's with
Peace signs, had a couple of women tell me this crappie. You know, what
sign are you? Aquarious? Lebra? Joes Bar And Grill? In fact I was
reciently asked that question from a woman from Cal.! Imagine that!
Someone still values a relationship on the astro sign your born under.
Wow! Where is ol Doc Brown when you need a spaceman! (Back to the
Future). :_)
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| 648.12 | | BONJVI::PIERCE | A womans place is on a horse | Tue Sep 24 1991 16:36 | 2 |
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Be honest and quick about it.
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