Conference quark::mennotes-v1

I grew up apart from my father, only visiting him twice a year.  Even now 
we're not close.  Yet it has been pointed out to me that I walk like him,
I talk like him, and have some of the same personality traits he does.
Yet I am dramatically different in many other ways.

We can't fight heredity, and just because you have picked up some of his
physical and behaviorial traits, that doesn't mean you're "turning into
your father."  Look for ways you are different from your father.  I'm sure
you'll find many.

				Steve

Well, I'm a lot like my dad  At 34, I guess if I'm gonna turn, I'm
half way there aye ?

I look much like he looked at my age, albeit, I'm a bit slimmer,
he wasn't heavy, but a husky guy when he was young..

We see things a lot a like though,,  Same general opions about life..

Anyway,,  There are somethings about my dad that I wouldn't want to
be today, and basically, those qualities are his age, and his hearing...

Other then that, I couldn't ask for a better way to be, than
to be my Dad...  could be worse...

    
    re .0
    
    ride a bike to work. 
    
    get a rug if the hairlessness bothers you.
    
    you are really as young as you feel..
    

    RE: .3
    
    Riding a bike to work is an idea I've thought of. It will take me
    a while to work up to it though. 15 miles wasn't far 20 years ago
    when I rode 100-150 miles a day (every day for a month) but it is now.
    
    The hairlessness doesn't bother me (especially since my younger
    brother has less :-)) I only bring it up because it's one way I
    look like my father.
    
>    you are really as young as you feel..
    
    OH, good I'm 25 going on 13 again. :-)	
    
    			Alfred

    Well, heck I'll say it.  I am turning into my father as well.  You know
    what ?  There are many many worse things I could turn into.  I also
    realise (now) what he went through and why he did some of the things he
    did.  So now I don't mind walking around in my bermuda shorts on with
    my black sox and my slip on shoes. :')
    
    
    Mike

<<	So now I don't mind walking around in my bermuda shorts on with
<<    my black sox and my slip on shoes. :')
    
    
	Hmm,  I'll draw the line at wearing plaid pants w/striped shirts 
    
    	Not that Dad ever did that,, the fashion police would have him
    	arrested...

    My dad was life-long chunky, i.e. 5'9" and 240 pounds. I always took
    after my mother, who's long and tall. In the last ten years or so, my
    father's health complications (diabedes, angina) have inspired him to
    reduce his weight to about 165. Another dimension: my father was always
    politically conservative, and frankly racist, but nowaways he's a voice
    for tolerance and government help for the needy. Finally, Dad is
    learning to turn off the TV and go DO sports instead of watch them.
    
    In other words...

I recognized many years ago that my father, for better or worse, had been
my greatly admired, sometimes feared, always respected main male role model
throughout my childhood years, and that there were many aspects of my self
which I modeled after him.  My emotional behavior, especially the way I dealt
with anger, is one example, but there were many, many.  I haven't time nor
inclination to go into it more right now.  For years, I wore a high school
ring.  When I realized how much of my father is in me, I took off my high
school ring and started wearing his.  It is my reminder, for myself, of how
much like him I am (as I said, for better and for worse.)  I use that to
give myself a little extra help to be who I consciously want to be, when
that is different from the example he set; or to honor him and his example,
when it is acceptable to my vision of who I want to be.

DougO