Conference quark::mennotes-v1

         Knowing that I would appreciate the similar treatment, I think I'd go
    with 'A'.  Embarassment from one person is better than the horror of
    discovering it on her own after a half-hour and wondering who had seen
    her.
    
         Then again, I see why you did what you did, too.
    
                                       Greg

    One thing you didn't suggest was to find another female who could
    tell her. 
    
    Other than that, I think the gentlemanly thing to do would be to tell
    her.
    
    Bonnie

    A polite remark would be welcome!  "Excuse me, but your skirt needs
    adjusting" would probably get the message across and the woman would
    probably have been very grateful.
    
    
    Judi
    

    I'd tell her.  She would be embarrassed but grateful and I'd feel like a
    hero for 30 seconds.  (Now if only somone would tell me when my zipper
    is open ...)
    
    LArry 

 A similar situation occurred only a few months ago. An attractive woman was
showing a bit more cleavage than usual as a button on her blouse had apparently
popped out (which I of course noticed right away, being the observant sort that
I am. :-)

 Now I had never spoken to this woman before, and I still don't know what her 
name is (AND she works in a different facility), but I casually walked up to her
and said in a very low voice, "I believe you may have popped a button." 
Evidently my voice was too low (I was trying not to attract alot of undue
attention) for she asked me to repeat myself. I repeated, with a relevant hand
gesture. She blushed, I blushed and said "have a nice day" and left. She
thanked me and that was that. She seemed genuinely appreciative that the whole
world did not get a "show."

 The Doctah

	I know that I would want to be told.  I remember an
	incident about a year ago when I wore a sheer bra and
	a sheer blouse. My suit jackets are always open and
	I did not realize that you could actually see bits
	of me until a woman friend mentioned it around 3:00 p.m.
	And I was just thinking that most of the men were in
	a smiley mood that day.

	But..on the other hand....I was talking with my boss
	just a few weeks ago...all the while noticing that his
	fly was down..and I could not tell him !


	kits
	

I had a like experience last july as I walked by where the woman was standing
I quietly said "It is snowing" in a low voice and kept on walking never noticing
who the woman was. About 10' further down the isle I heard a Thankyou.
I decided by not looking to see who she was her embareassment(pardon the pun)
would be lessened.

One thing for sure I woulden't exercise option D. Untangle the encumbered
garment for her.

-j

    Hi all,
    
    I am new to this note, let me have a little intro. I am from Hong
    Kong, aged 21, belongs to ISEDA/HK and is a cooperative student
    in this company.
    
    About this topic, I have several experiences.
    
    Once I was walking down the street, I saw a lady with her skirt's
    botton's off. I struggled inside whether told her or not. At that
    time my choice is B. Luckily, another lady went up to her and told
    her at the same moment I had made the choice.
    
    Another time, I saw a beautify lady had a paper stuck on her back.
    If you ever play a game that you stick a paper on ones back with
    the paper has some wording on it? The paper on her back was not
    that kind, the paper is something like a stamp. I went up to her
    and said "you have a paper stick at your back", and she replied
    me "oh, thanks," with a sweet smile(I have picked the paper out
    for her.)
    
    Mickwid Lam.

    Personally,i would have a good stare,say something like "Away,lass -
    baps oot fer lads" then have a good laugh.
    
    Is this whats known as being insensitive?
    
    Captain Headcase.
   

    Re. 11
    
    That's the sort of reply we've come to expect from you.
    You are uncouth, sexist, yobbish, unfeeling, and yes, insensitive.
    Personally, I would get my camera out and then put a blown-up photo on
    the notice board.

    re .12
    
    Do you fancy swapping photo`s over a pint?
    
    Captain Headcase
    

    I know for a fact that the block note 12 is a sexist git because
    he pinched my bum the other night.
    
    Captain Headcase's Wife
    

    RE: 14
    Spelling mistake: 
    block is meant to be bloke

    
    RE -1
    
    Actually, from what I've read, "block" sounds more accurate.
    
    'gail

    Captain Headcase's wife couldn't keep her hands to herself - she threw
    herself at me and I had to fight her off.
    I know she really wants me, but she'll have to take her place at the
    back of the queue - it's only fair.

    RE: 17,18	.
    
    Well all i can say is that i hope that your waiting list is'nt to long
    or should i say i hope that my divorce wont take years.
    
    Ex-Captain Headcase's Wife
    

Could we get back to the subject, please?

	Steve

    
    Okay, back to the subject!  This note reminded me of another situation
    - last week I stopped two people going in to the toilets designated for
    the opposite sex.  One was a man pushing the door of the ladies, the
    next day it was a woman heading in to the mens.  Being the nice person 
    I am I thought it was kinder to tell them than to let them face the 
    embarrassment of finding themselves in the wrong toilets (especially 
    as they were occupied). 
    
    Mind you, I was not within whispering range so had to say loudly
    "That's the ladies/mens" therefore probably drawing the attention of
    other passersby to their mistake.  They both said "thank you" though!
    
    Sam

Well, I must admit, since I didn't say or do anything but turn the other
way, I did feel bad about it.

My true feeling was

"Someone else will do/say something"

I guess that's just pretty much a universal attitude these days.

Ya know, if it happened again this afternoon, I'd probably do the
same thing !

    	Last summer my wife and her sister were on a ferry in the middle of
    a harbor when man and his wife sat across from them. The couple seemed
    quite taken with each other and paid no mind to anyone around. Problem
    was that they were both wearing athletic shorts and he wasn't wearing
    BVD's. My sister in law became nearly hysterical and my wife a bit
    embarassed, as his excitement with his date began to "show". They
    figured if he couldn't feel the ocean breeze....he didn't care anyway.
    
    
    	Ken

    RE wrong bathrooms:
    
    The building 'Ken' is in ML4 or 12 or ... has one floor where the mid
    lenght bathrooms are reversed. Must have been a joke by some
    contractor?
    
    
    Steve

>    was that they were both wearing athletic shorts and he wasn't wearing
>    BVD's. My sister in law became nearly hysterical and my wife a bit
 

	It's worse when you know the person.  Years ago I went
	to visit my then inlaws. My father_in_law had on an old
	pair of swimming trunks ( he had been doing some work
	is his back yard). He sat down opposite me and everthing
	he owned literally spilled out of his trunks....and I
	was too embarrassed to say anything to him..and I kept
	trying to avert my gaze....but you know how you keep looking
	at something that you know you are not supposed to see.

	The real funny part of it was that I was a very naive
	and very young bride of 19 when it happened....and later
	asked my husband why his father had so much more than
	he did   :-)

	I was able to laugh about it with my husband later....but
	I never told his father.

	kits

    Re: Last
    
    I have been both the viewer and viewee of the shorts-and-loose-underwear
    syndrone.  I gave my unindended display as I led a group discussion at
    an outdoor education center.  Not a single woman in the group said anything.
    I found out later when another male informed me of what happened.  Now I
    know why the audience seemed so transfixed on my "presentation".
    
    LArry
    Surprised but not embarrassed

	Larry,

	Do you lead these group discussions at outdoor
	educations centers often?  

	Please post your schedule    :-)

	kits

re .24

I can point to a set of restrooms in SHR that is ordered opposite from other
sets.  In fact, I think I once stopped someone from going into the wrong one.

Rich

    Once years ago we had friends visiting and the husband was wearing
    cut off jeans with no bvds. He was chatting amicably when I noticed
    something showing out of the edge of his pants. I excused myself
    briefly and went and told his wife. She and I had a good laugh over
    it later, but there was *no way* I'd have told him.
    
    blush
    
    Bonnie

re: -1

 "What's that tiny thing?"

    
    	"There's a string hanging from your shorts. Let me get the
    	scissors." :-) :-)
    

<<"There's a string hanging from your shorts. Let me get the
<<scissors." :-) :-)
  


A STRING!!!!  A STRING!!!!!!   AAAAAAAAAAAAAA  SSSSSSSSSTRRRRINNNNNGGGG!!!

We get No Respect At All Do We!  

>   <<< Note 532.32 by PELKEY::PELKEY "Life, a state of cluster transition" >>>


>We get No Respect At All Do We!  


	Respect don't come easy these days   :-)  :-)


	kits

    Reminds me of an old joke:
    
       "Are you glad to see me, or is that half a pack of Certs in your
        pocket?"
    
    - Hoyt

<<Respect don't come easy these days   :-)  :-)


you got that right!

:?)

    Another story:
    
    Sir Winston Churchill, while addressing Parliament, received a note
    from his aide stating that he was unzipped. In the middle of his
    speech, he said he had to respond to an urgent notice from his aide. He
    then said:  "Old birds seldom fall out of their nest."
    

	I found myself in a situation like that once.  I had bought
	a new set of swim trunks (yelloy ripstop nylon) and went
	out with a buddy and his wife, Shirley,  on their sailboat.

	A squall blew up, it rained briefly, and the trunks went
	TRANSPARENT !
	
		Hi Shirley !

	I added  a towel for the rest of the trip, but one last note
	is kind of amusing.... My buddy told me later that his wife
	tackled him when they got home !

	Steve H

    In most cases I'd find a quiet way to tell the woman.  I remember
    on case where the woman was an ultra feminist who would probably
    have replied that I should do some anatomically impossible task
    so I ignored the problem.
    
    ed

    
    That reminds me...
    
    I came into work one day, went to the cafe at the other end of the
    building, for coffee.  As I sat in my cube drinking my coffee, a 
    man from the next cube told me that my zipper was down on the back of 
    my skirt.
    To make matters worse, I'd been concerned about panty lines so I'd just
    worn nylons.  I was embarrassed but VERY grateful that I'd been told.
    
    Rachael