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Conference quark::mennotes-v1

Title:	Topics Pertaining to Men
Notice:	Archived V1 - Current file is QUARK::MENNOTES
Moderator:	QUARK::LIONEL

Created:	Fri Nov 07 1986
Last Modified:	Tue Jan 26 1993
Last Successful Update:	Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:	867
Total number of notes:	32923

347.0. "Time Apart Can Be Awful Hard Sometimes...." by WJO::COOK (Shadows Of Another Day) Fri May 19 1989 09:06

    
    
    Have you ever had to spend some time away from your SO? How did
    it feel, and how did you cope with the loneliness? 
    
    I'm very close to my SO, and he went away hunting for a couple of
    days, and I find myself feeling different than I've ever felt before..
    I never realized i depended on him that much or needed him this
    much. . . It is a strange feeling, and somehow i feel like just
    this little time apart is going to make us appreciate each other
    so much more after he gets back...
    
    Am I crazy, or have other people felt this way before??? Tell me
    what it was like, and what you did to try and get back to normal
    while your SO was away...
    
    Thanks...
    Angela.

T.R	Title	User	Personal Name	Date	Lines
347.1	Even Lovers Need A Holiday	PCCAD1::RICHARDJ	Bluegrass,Music Aged to Perfection	`Fri May 19 1989 09:34`	10
	RE:0 Angela, your not crazy, your in love. I spent a week away from my wife while on a business trip. I felt only half of me was there. The separation is good for your relationship. My wife and I make a separate religious retreat every year. We find the separation helps us to appreciate our relationship more. Peace Jim
347.2	Absence makes the heart grow fonder...	BEING::DUNNE		`Fri May 19 1989 12:07`	12
	No, Angela, you're not crazy. I know just how you feel. The first time I ever felt that way, my boyfriend had only gone away for a long weekend. Since I'm a very independent person, I thought I would enjoy that time, and I was very surprised at how much I missed him. I think it's just part of being in a long-term relationship. The next time you're separated probably will be easier because you will be expecting to miss him a lot. You might plan on being very nice to yourself the next time he is going to be away. Eileen
347.3	You're OK	FDCV10::BOTTIGLIO	Some Teardrops Never Dry	`Fri May 19 1989 13:30`	7
	I don't think you're crazy - just normal and in love. In a past job, I traveled on business quite a bit, and when I returned home, there was a certain spark - the separation was a positive in terms of the relationship.
347.4	Love is a wonderful thing....	WJO::COOK	Shadows Of Another Day	`Mon May 22 1989 08:51`	8
	This separation definitely had a positive effect on our relationship.. he just got home and we are closer... i think we both realized just how much we really needed each other, and as much as it hurt, it helped greatly... things had been a bit shaky before, but now they are stronger than ever!!