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| 222.1 | honesty hurts... | GNUVAX::BOBBITT | modem butterfly | Thu Apr 07 1988 17:33 | 10 |
| b). for me - of course the level of attractiveness we are talking
about is solely in my mind. Someone I consider extremely attractive
may not be everyone's cup of tea...
And this insecurity in my own qualities is something I am working
very hard to change right now. I get the feeling it can cause an
awful lot of trouble in life if you don't believe in yourself.
-Jody
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| 222.2 | Easy ! | COMET::BERRY | Howie Mandel in a previous life. | Fri Apr 08 1988 07:51 | 7 |
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d) Other. If they go anywhere else, it's a step down!
-Howie-
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| 222.3 | BELIEVE IN YOURSELF | DPDMAI::HAMRICK | | Fri Apr 08 1988 12:23 | 14 |
| a)--- yes
b)--- no
c)--- yes
d)--- agree with .2
After all if you can't believe in yourself, who can you believe
in? If you are insecure about this issue, chances are you are insecure
about yourself concerning many other issues.
Just my thoughts.................. Harvey
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| 222.4 | | HOTJOB::GROUNDS | Suicide is painless | Sat Apr 09 1988 22:45 | 1 |
| My vote is yes for a, b, and c .
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| 222.5 | EVERYONE'S HUMAN | GRANMA::MWANNEMACHER | | Tue Apr 12 1988 13:59 | 19 |
| I BELIEVE THAT MANY PEOPLE FEEL THAT THEY HAVE INADEQUACIES WHICH
MAKE THEM FEEL THAT THEIR PARTNER COULD HAVE DONE BETTER. I THINK
THAT ANYONE WHO FEELS THEY NEED IMPROVEMENT HAS A FOOL FOR A CRITIC.
I ALSO BELIEVE, HOWEVER, THAT ONE MUST GET OVER THESE FEELINGS OF
INADAQUECY OR THEY WILL LET IT INTERFERE WITH THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
THE OLD EMOTION. JEALOUSY WILL SHOW ITS NASTY HEAD AND THAT SPELLS
TROUBLE.
I BELIEVE THE BEST WAY FOR ANYONE TO GET OVER THESE FEELINGS OF
INADEQUACY IS TO TELL YOUR SPECIAL SOMEONE HOW YOU FEEL AND THAT
YOU WILL NEED REASSURANCE FROM TIME TO TIME. IF THEY DESERVE TO
BE IN THE RELATIONSHIP, THEY WILL BE UNDERSTANDING AND HELPFUL TO
YOU.
LASTLY, YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT EVERYONE IS BETTER AND WORSE AT
SOMETHING THAN SOMEONE ELSE. THAT IS WHAT MAKES US NEED ONE ANOTHER.
HOPE I'VE HELPED,
MIKE
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| 222.6 | lowercase requested | VIDEO::FISKE | | Tue Apr 12 1988 15:02 | 9 |
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yo! please use lowercase letters too. it makes reading your
voluminous notes that much the easier, besides it's requested
right in the start of this conference.
Exit, stage left........V
:
<...........................<
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| 222.7 | Yo, Sorry Sylvester Stallone. | GRANMA::MWANNEMACHER | | Tue Apr 12 1988 17:46 | 1 |
| Yo! SoRrY!
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| 222.8 | --< Sometimes I feel so....uninspired >-- | VIDEO::FISKE | | Wed Apr 13 1988 09:12 | 9 |
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"I just want my country to love me as much as I love it."
- Rambo, '84
P.S. There's nothing to be sorry for, I'm a proofreader by habit.
I'm not out for 'First Blood', just asking for a little
continuity.
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| 222.9 | Ok, Done Deal | GRANMA::MWANNEMACHER | | Wed Apr 13 1988 09:45 | 12 |
| I understand. Just an attempt at humor. It's funny, I have a habit
of writing in upper case letters ever since my drafting classes,
I guess it just carried over. No offense to anyone, just habit.
There is a correction I would like to make in my original entry.
Instead of saying, anyone who thinks there is room for improvement
(or something to that effect), it should be, anyone who thinks there
isn't room for improvement.
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Have a nice day everyone,
Mike
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| 222.10 | | FSLENG::HEFFERN | | Tue Apr 26 1988 06:24 | 22 |
| answers:
a. I guess I don't really think in terms of whether or not
I have a "right" to or not to be with someone. Just concerned
with whether or not they're "with" me.
b. I admit, I get a little shaky when I'm seeing a real attractive
man. I think that they could have anyone they one want why
are they settling for me. Stupid reasoning, I agree, but it
does cross my mind.
c. The "person I am" is about all any man gets from me. I tried
too hard when I was younger to be someone else. If someone
asks to see me again, I pretty much know it's for myself.
Of course, it goes the other way also. If they don't want to
see me again, I feel like I must be boring or something.
While so many are trying to gain wealth, I'm struggling with
self-confidence. I think I'll be real rich when I feel I have a
good hold on my self-value.
cj
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| 222.11 | | XCUSME::KING | Node Warrior | Fri Apr 29 1988 02:12 | 15 |
| a) Yes.
b) Sometimes
c) yes
d) Remember that beauty is only skin deep. Who a person is on
inside matters a whole lot more than what they are on the
outside. We all have facades and sometimes try to be different
people for others. That is to say we try to act in a way that
we think will make them more attracted to us. When in fact
they may be expecting us to be ourselves.
Bryan
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| 222.12 | Enter the Realist. | TSECAD::HEALY | Life is Perfectly Fair. | Mon May 02 1988 16:35 | 38 |
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a) You bet your *SS I do! After all the sh*t and misery I've
endured in this life I deserve a treat!
b) Honestly? - OF COURSE! Whether or not you care to admit it,
A PRETTY FACE is one of the main factors every day social
interfacing revolves around. (Conformity and aggression are
a few of the others.) Don't misconstrue my "of course(ing)"
as a blatant lack of confidence - its not. She could certainly
find a "prettier" man, or one with more "bucks", but I'll
be damned if I'll concede anyone as being "better" than my-
self! It is so GOD DAMNED EASY for attractive women in our
society to find partners, and if she's as good looking as
I suspect your question/example wants me to believe she is
(and I am not particularly so), she most likely won't be
sitting home waiting for the phone to ring next Saturday
night and probably knows it! In reality, wouldn't anyone
short of a young, knock-out, millionaire, jet-setter feel
even a little lacking in the confidence department? If I
detected a girl were feeling this way and about to let me
know it, she would be in for a real uncomfortable situation.
c) If I were a dirt poor and renowned writer I sure would!
But seriously, and again in reality, aren't we really
seeking to fulfill our OWN needs when selecting a mate?
d) How much time do you have?
RE: .5 Please don't take this personally, but, YOU ARE CRAZY!
The LAST thing a guy should do in this situation is air
his lack of confidence! Forget all this bullsh*t about
opening up and revealing your weaknesses. It can only
work against you, besides, she doesn't want to hear it,
and I don't blame her!
MATT HEALY
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| 222.13 | Attractvie is aas attractive does !! | AHIKER::EARLY | Bob Early CSS/NSG Dtn 264-6252 | Mon May 22 1989 13:34 | 40 |
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> If you are with an attractive person, do you feel:
> a). That you have every right to be with that person.
But of course .. rights aren't controlled by "looks", are they ?
> b). That because they are attractive, they could leave at any time
> and find someone "better" than you.
That posibility exists between ANY two people. You do know what a "TEN"
is done't you ? Well, do you know what an engineers "TEN" is ? That's a
FOUR who will make you SMILE like you want to smile!!
> c). Confident that the person you are with is with you for you.
ABSOLUTELY !!! One of the best parts of being a self-sanctimonius
conceited nerd is that NOONE stays with, unless they REALLY WANT
TO !!
> d). other.
Consider this possibility: For all the people in this world, there
are 2 people who are an exact match for each other. The rest of
us need to negotiate to stay together.
Negotiation doesn't mean "GIVING UP" what we need most; it means
helping the other person have what THEY need to have; and telling
them what we need to have. Love, is doing it, together, for each
other.
Bob Early
> Are many people very insecure if they consider that the person that
> they are with could do "better"?
> Just a question.. B*)
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