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| 199.1 | ".......... with Love." | BETA::EARLY | Bob_the_Hiker | Thu Dec 17 1987 12:21 | 24 |
| re: .1
How could you can help a rape victim ?
The same you would help any other rape victim. TLC, and lots of
it. In some ways, I think its more difficult for male rape victims
because "most" people take the attitude "Aw, a big guy like you
was raped by a <insert assailant>. What were you doing there ,anyway?"
Hmm if the victim has a 'class action hostile' attitude, they might
be able to talk with 'responsible' people of that particular class;
and learn that what they experienced was not the 'norm' for those
people, but ; just like women who get raped by men; these men form
a minority of the whole class; just any other form of criminal
represents a minority of any class of people.
Hmmm yeh, TLC ... lots of it. Like divorce ... forget the questions.If
you love them/ like them ... just care like you'd want them to care
for you ... with Love .
Bob+3
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| 199.2 | More | AIMHI::RAUH | | Wed Jun 15 1988 12:02 | 8 |
| Find out how long ago this happened. Talk to a lawyer, if this
person knows who were these folks are you may get some monatary
satasfaction for pain and suffering through the years. It could
be interesting to even see these what evers go to the big house.
Could be even more satasfaction. Its a tough call, I am a believer
of TLC as well. But nothing wrong with alittle vengence.
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| 199.3 | Reluctance to talk about it | SSDEVO::YOUNGER | Just remember one thing | Wed Jul 27 1988 14:28 | 10 |
| The problem that I've seen with male victims of sexual abuse is
they tend to try to minimize the problem to the outside world.
I've suggested legal action to a friend who was sexually assulted
recently - he won't hear of it. It seems that both people that
I'm now close to who have been asulted would feel like less of a
man if it ever "got out". *sigh* A shame. These &^%$#@&#s are
out loose to damage more people this way. Still, I realize that
a rape/sexual assult trial is not easy for the victim either.
Elizabeth
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| 199.4 | | RANCHO::HOLT | Robert A Holt | Thu Jul 28 1988 23:19 | 9 |
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People should give such persons the space they need to deal with
it in their own way.
Identifying as a 'victim' can prolong and complicate getting
over it.
A good human potential course can assist in working through the
experience and putting it firmly behind one's self.
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| 199.5 | Regarding .3 | BETSY::WATSON | No_Mad | Fri Jul 29 1988 09:48 | 9 |
| re: .3 (Elizabeth)
> I've suggested legal action to a friend who was sexually assulted
> recently - he won't hear of it.
A grown man was sexually assaulted? By another man or by a woman?
Seriously,
Kip
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| 199.6 | | SSDEVO::YOUNGER | Heisenburg might have been here | Fri Jul 29 1988 18:38 | 9 |
| Re .5
>> I've suggested legal action to a friend who was sexually assulted
>> recently - he won't hear of it.
>A grown man was sexually assaulted? By another man or by a woman?
Another man.
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| 199.7 | | QUARK::LIONEL | May you live in interesting times | Sat Jul 30 1988 00:22 | 4 |
| There are cases of adult men being sexually assaulted by women.
You don't hear of them too often.
Steve
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| 199.8 | NO! Really?? | SALEM::AMARTIN | My AHDEDAHZZ REmix, by uLtRaVeRsE | Sat Jul 30 1988 00:27 | 1 |
| NO WAY!!! it jes dont happen! :-{
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| 199.9 | Oh, yes, it do | STARCH::MARVIN | Life is process, not a product | Sun Jan 29 1989 12:16 | 20 |
| .7,.8
Oh yes, it does happen. One of the networks had a special on sexual
and physical abuse of men. One authority on incarcerated male sex
offenders found that the most chronic offenders had been sexually
abused as children and 20% of the population had been first abused
by women, frequently mothers.
A tell-tale sign of chronic sexual abuse in men is a tendency to
cut themselves, intentionally, on various parts of their bodies,
particularly arms.
Children in boarding schools and Scouts really do have those things
happen to them. I've met several who have been gang-raped by older
boys and several others seduced by leaders. I am not suggesting
that all or even most leaders are pedophiles, however, I've heard
enough complaints for me to conclude that this is a much more common
phenomenom than person-in-the-street thinks.
Jack
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| 199.10 | Anonymous - father being abused by partner | QUARK::LIONEL | Ad Astra | Thu Feb 02 1989 19:49 | 20 |
| The following note has been entered on behalf of a member of our
community who wishes to remain anonymous. If you wish to reply
by mail, please send your message to me, indicating the note number
and whether or not you wish your name to be attached to the
message.
My problem is that I think my father is being abused physically
by his partner. When they fight, she does all the yelling, and the
next day he sometimes has a contusion on his face. I suspect that he
was physically abused (beat up) as a child even though he has never
said so.
I want so much to ask him about this, but am afraid of him
feeling humiliated, or of forcing him to deal with the knowledge that
others know. This relationship is very important to him, and I think
he is afraid of losing her. But it hurts me so much that he feels he
has to tolerate this treatment, if indeed that is what is going on.
How can I help him?
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