| Title: | Topics Pertaining to Men |
| Notice: | Archived V1 - Current file is QUARK::MENNOTES |
| Moderator: | QUARK::LIONEL |
| Created: | Fri Nov 07 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Tue Jan 26 1993 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 867 |
| Total number of notes: | 32923 |
Some advice would help, even though taking it may not happen.
For those of you who went through a divorce and a second marriage,
and saw the second one disintegrate: How much did it take before
you finally called it quits?
Would you have done it alone with no one waiting in the wings?
Would you have risked losing your kid(s) to save your sanity?
If you saw a purely platonic relationship form instead of a loving
one of it would you taken celibacy as an alternative?
Would you start another relationship before the marriage disolved?
How would you live if breaking up was more painful than maintaining
the "status quo"?
What key thing did it for you for you to say "it's over?"
As men, are we generally less patient when dealing with a relation-
ship?
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A lot of the same questions asked in the HUMAN_RELATIONS file
but it would be nice to hear a man's perspective,--- I've heard
enough of the woman's!
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| 43.2 | I wish I knew... | DEMOAX::ODELL | In through the out door | Tue Dec 09 1986 18:48 | 10 |
As someone who has been divorced for a few years, I am absolutely
scared to death of making a second commitment or even risking a
chance of a second commitment because I don't know the answers posed
in .0.... I'm not sure I want to go through it again, easier or
not.
bob
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| 43.3 | They know you by your looks | RANCHO::RAH | sit on a potato pan, otis | Wed Dec 10 1986 22:01 | 2 |
After once around maybe we know if we can do it or not.
Certainly no one's trying to talk me into it.
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| 43.4 | AKOV04::WILLIAMS | Mon Dec 22 1986 16:29 | 17 | ||
My first two marriages ended in divorce. I was 18 when first married
and 21 when divorced. The pain of that failure still haunts me.
The second marriage was a true lark and, save for seeing the woman
when she comes through Boston, rarely think about it.
There was a child in the first marriage, she is now 26, happily
married and the mother of a boy and a girl. She also has never
forgiven me for the original failure, nor have I forgiven myself.
I am presently married, and have been for 17 years - but without
children, by choice. I am not as good a husband as I believe I
should be and the marriage is not perfect - which one is. But,
regardless of the problems, I will NEVER divorce again. I believe
I could accept my wife asking me for a divorce, though not easily.
I will not expose myself to the pain of leaving my wife - the pain
it would inflict upon her and the resulting pain it would bring
to me. Damned if I know exactly why!
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| 43.5 | Hide for a while | IMAGIN::SYKES | Sat Mar 21 1987 03:35 | 12 | |
As one who is ending my second shot, this is quite heavy for me!
The first one lasted 14 years before I clled it, this one only 2.5,
evan though its been coming for a while.
I am sending my children back to their mother for safe keeping.
Its quite painful all around. I wish both of us luck.
About a third time; maybe when I'm 80 or so. For now, its time
to spend time on independance.
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