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22.1 | Clarification needed. | 2B::ZAHAREE | Michael W. Zaharee | Tue Nov 18 1986 10:25 | 5 |
| re .0
Please elaborate. What is your intent?
- M
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22.4 | Femminist nonsense indeed! | ROYCE::RKE | A little levity goes a long way | Tue Nov 18 1986 13:45 | 11 |
| re -1
and whats wrong with that then............
...............I stumbled on both in my search for a woman!
@ @
^ )
\_/
Richard.
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22.5 | | DSSDEV::FISHER | | Tue Nov 18 1986 13:53 | 6 |
|
There are exceptions, but it sounds pretty accurate to me (at least in
the male description). I've had the notion that if I chase men to
whom I'm attracted, some day I'll fall in love with one of them.
--Gerry
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22.6 | Looney feminism? I like that! | RSTS32::TABER | If you can't bite, don't bark! | Tue Nov 18 1986 14:04 | 9 |
| Oh, I know what you mean!!!
"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle!"
- Anonymous
Like that?
Bugs
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22.7 | Once again, thx for quoting me! | APEHUB::STHILAIRE | | Tue Nov 18 1986 14:26 | 18 |
|
Re .3, well, I'm the person (extreme loony feminist in your book
I guess) who quoted this in Womannotes (real author unknown). I
quoted this as an example of ways that men and women are different
- not necessarily inherently but still different. I quoted this
because in my experience it is the truth. I happen to think that
most little girls dream of falling in love long before they discover
the delights of sex; and that most little boys dream about having
sex long before they discover the delights of love. I don't even
think this is a statement against men. I just think that if we
understand ways in which men and women are different we may be able
to get along better, and have more realistic expectations of each
other.
Why does this make me loony?
Lorna
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22.9 | I agree with Lorna | TOPDOC::SLOANE | Notable notes from -bs- | Tue Nov 18 1986 15:58 | 8 |
| re: .7
Dear Lorna,
It doesn't.
Bruce
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22.10 | here's one | VORTEX::JOVAN | i'm fighting things i can't see... | Tue Nov 18 1986 17:07 | 5 |
| i've fallen in love before.....
with men i wouldn't want to meet....
angeline
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22.11 | from a moderator... | KALKIN::BUTENHOF | Approachable Systems | Wed Nov 19 1986 11:14 | 9 |
| You may notice that 22.0 and .2 are missing.
A reader objected to a phrase used by the author of those notes.
On being informed of this, the author deleted the notes. I wish
he would consider re-entering this discussion in a more neutral
fashion, but that's up to him.
/dave (why'd I let myself get talked into moderating,
anyway :-))
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22.12 | re: general | 2B::ZAHAREE | Michael W. Zaharee | Wed Nov 19 1986 14:15 | 41 |
| After some research, I have decided that this was not a bad idea
for a topic. Unfortunately, it was not presented in a manner that
would allow readers to draw the same conclusion.
The intent of the original author was to parallel a newspaper column
that appears regularly in a newspaper published in the UK. The idea is
to present material that represents sexism against men by feminist
organizations or individuals. The intent was not to say that the
feminist movement OVERALL is bad or sexist, only that there are
extremists in any movement, and that sexism against men by feminists
is ironic.
Unfortunately, to readers in the US who have never seen the above
mentioned newspaper column, "Loony Feminists" is somewhat vague. "Loony
Feminists" could mean "The particular feminists who are loony" or
"Feminists in general are loony." I guess this problem comes in two
parts: first, US readers did not understand the context. If the
mentioned column regularly appeared in _Newsweek_ I suspect we would
have no problem. Second, the English language gets [mis?:-)]used
somewhat differently in the US than it does in the UK. A simple single
word can mean entirely different things depending on who you are
talking to. [A good example is the term "wench": a not particularly
offensive term in the UK- try using this word in a bar in the US! Let
us know if you survive. :-) ]
This is an international notes file. We need to be 1) more sensitive
to our wide and varied audience and 2) less sensitive of criticism that
may result in the event we might have been [just] misunderstood.
As I notice we are missing more than just the base note from this topic
[all of which were deleted by the authors], I would also like to take
this opportunity to ask that people refrain from deleting material
unless absolutely necessary. The potential for subsequent replies to
be misinterpreted or taken out of context goes up significantly, and
raises the question of censorship- something we're working very hard to
avoid.
Thank you,
- M
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22.13 | | RDGENG::LESLIE | Andy `{o}^{o}' Leslie, ECSSE, OSI. | Wed Nov 19 1986 16:32 | 1 |
| The column is called "Wimmin" and appears in "Private Eye".
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22.14 | Re .3 & .7 | APEHUB::STHILAIRE | | Thu Nov 20 1986 10:45 | 17 |
|
Re .3 & .7, the phrase I quoted in Womannotes and that was re-quoted
in .3 was, "Men stumble on love in their quest for sex, women stumble
on sex in their quest for love."
I'm putting it back in so that my reply in .7 makes sense.
This phrase was used in .3 as an example of sexism against men,
which was not my original intent in Womannotes at all. The discussion
there (between Dave Butenhof and myself) was about differences between
men and women. But, this was not meant to be a put down of men.
Actually it's probably more sensible to look for sex before love.
It's easier to find, right?
Lorna
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22.15 | boys don't cry | CSC32::KOLBE | Liesl-Colo Spgs- DTN 522-5681 | Sat Nov 22 1986 18:56 | 13 |
| Women who expect *their* men to be the complete male sterotype commit
a certain form of sexism against men. I know I appreciate not having
to be strong *all the time*. While I feel women suffer a little more
than men in a sexist society (of course I could be predjudiced)
I have to believe the strong silent type male image has harmed many
men who did not fit it.
It seems that in our society men are punished more for having womanly
traits than women for having manly traits. I could dress in man's
clothing and not create much fuss but if my husband put on one of
my 'feminine' sweaters watch out! Women don't beat up lesbians either.
Liesl
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22.16 | No more Yin/Yang | STAR::MALIK | Karl Malik | Fri Feb 13 1987 15:40 | 14 |
|
Just a nit here -
I often hear phrases to the effect that men shouldn't be
afraid to show their 'feminine' traits. Same for women and
their 'masculine/agressive' traits.
All this does is give support to the notion that much
traits actually have some sexual basis in the first place.
It is sexist in itself, no matter how well intentioned.
The traditional masculine/feminine dichotomy is a limiting
and harmful stereotype.
- Karl
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22.18 | Be a man!!! | GENRAL::FRASHER | An opinion for any occasion | Mon Mar 02 1987 12:20 | 38 |
| Consider:
A female engineer or secretary going to a man to lift something
heavy or do something dirty. Is this sexist?
I believe that women can be as strong as men, but they are taught
not to be. Because men do the 'tough' stuff, they maintain stronger
muscles. They have to maintain the image of being the man of the
house. A single woman is probably stronger than a married woman
because the single woman must do things for herself. If I'm
wrong, please inform me, don't flame.
After 16 years with my wife, I have noticed that she doesn't put
as much effort into doing something as I do. Opening a jar comes
to mind. She tried and failed, then handed me the jar. I handed
it back and told her to try harder. She tried and failed. I explained
that I believe that men are taught to use every ounce of power and
then a little bit more, but women are taught to conserve their power
and don't push too hard. If you can't do it with reasonable power,
give it to a man who will pull a muscle before giving up. I told
her to twist that lid until she felt that she might pull a muscle,
and she got the jar open.
Have you ever seen a group of men with a jar that's impossible to
open? They will try until the muscles ripple with fatigue. Then
they try with the other hand. This is intensified if there is a
woman present. Every man must pull all of his tendons loose trying
to be the most macho. Its pretty comical to watch. It becomes
a game. I'm just as guilty as all of the rest, too. My father
was built like a brick outhouse and he always made me do things
because a 'man' must be able to do it in order to help the women.
The worst insult in the world was to let a woman do it for you.
I don't mind helping women because they think something is too heavy
or the don't have the strength to do something. I was taught to
"be the man". Sometimes I tell my wife to "be a man".
Spence
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22.20 | on tools | STUBBI::B_REINKE | the fire and the rose are one | Mon Mar 02 1987 13:14 | 16 |
| There are several nice tools to open jars but they are not
easy to find in the stores. I have one that is worth it's
weight in gold that is shaped sort of like this () there is
/\
a hinge at the top of the two curved pieces and the interior
surfaces have teeth.
there is also something that my mother used to have which was two
pieces of metal that would slide apart that were controlled by
a handle.
what's the point of popping a tendon when a tool can be used :-)
But I think that one of the biological differences between the average
man and the average woman is that the man has greater upper body
strength so it is not entirely cultural .....
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22.21 | used my hand | JACUZI::DAUGHAN | fight individualism | Mon Mar 02 1987 16:18 | 4 |
| re.19
steve i just opened a jar that my MALE roommate could not.
do i look muscle bound??????
kelly
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22.22 | | 2B::ZAHAREE | Back from the brink of disaster! | Mon Mar 02 1987 17:13 | 5 |
| re .21:
Not from where I sit, but noone looks muscle-bound via a VT220.
- M
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22.23 | To be read with tongue firmly in cheek | QUARK::LIONEL | Free advice is worth every cent | Mon Mar 02 1987 17:37 | 4 |
| Good grief - if you take away from men the job of opening
jars and bottles, women will have no further use for us!
Steve
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22.24 | At the risk of putting men out of business... ;-) | NOVA::BNELSON | California Dreamin'... | Mon Mar 02 1987 17:47 | 9 |
|
There's a secret to opening jars I learned from my mom -- run the jar's lid
( hopefully it's metal! ) under hot water, and the heat will cause the lid
to expand thus freeing it from the jar. Works every time. Of course, being
a "man" I only do this when no one else is around to see it!!!! ;-) ;-)
Brian
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22.25 | biological vs influence | GENRAL::FRASHER | An opinion for any occasion | Mon Mar 02 1987 17:51 | 16 |
| Re .20
> But I think that one of the biological differences between the average
> man and the average woman is that the man has greater upper body
> strength so it is not entirely cultural .....
So you are saying that an average man is stronger than an average
woman biologically, rather than being developed through exersize.
If a man and a woman of the same dimensions did exactly the same
things, wouldn't they both be equally strong or is there a biological
difference that would prevent the woman from being as strong as a man?
I have seen muscular women, but none are as muscular as muscular
men.
The above sounds sarcastic to me but its not intended that way.
Spence
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22.26 | | QUARK::LIONEL | Free advice is worth every cent | Mon Mar 02 1987 19:36 | 22 |
| Re: .25
The biological difference is real. If you take the "average" woman
and have her exercise her body to the same extent as the "average"
man, the man would end up with greater upper body strength. This
is perhaps meaningful for people who spend their lives opening
jam jars and crushing beer cans, but otherwise isn't too important.
There are all sorts of tips for opening jars, but this isn't
a household hints conference, last I checked. (Is there one? I
wonder...) The hot water trick works often, but not always. Better
is to find some way to break the vacuum seal. The gadgets work
well indeed.
It can be somewhat humiliating for a man who has tried to open
a jar and failed to have a woman then easily open it. The usual
excuse is then "I loosened it for you"! :-) It's all a game.
Steve
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22.27 | Pretty Strong Woman | NRLABS::TATISTCHEFF | | Mon Mar 02 1987 20:19 | 21 |
| re: .20, .21, .26
Are you _sure_ of that? My mom (the electrician/farmer) is 6' tall,
and still the strongest person I know. When my old ('71) Mustang
had to have a headlight replaced, the bolts had basically rusted
shut. I tried, my male and female friends tried (some of them were
pretty strong), and then I drove the thing up to Maine. Her boyfriend
couldn't get it undone (plumber/electrician/construction worker),
Mom broke a screwdriver on it, got out a better quality screwdriver,
and the thing was out in one grunt.
I have a hard time believing that any man is _innately_ stronger
than my mom. Yes, she works/excercises (has to), but I still find
it hard to believe that any man who worked the same amount as she
does would be significantly stronger.
BTW, I think women/girls should be trained to use tools and learn
more about how to be a fix-it, handy-person. But then again, this
is an engineer speaking (smile).
Lee
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22.28 | | STUBBI::B_REINKE | the fire and the rose are one | Mon Mar 02 1987 20:25 | 18 |
| re .25 and .26
The difference is due to the male hormones which promote muscle
development. Plus the fact that women have a higher percentage
of body fat than men - which means less muscle per pound of body
weight.
re house hold hints - as long as it doesn't take over the conference
what's the harm?
and as Steve alspointed out the real secret is breaking the
vacuum between the lid and the liquid, which can even be done by
rapping the jar lid on the floor. Which is why the "you loosened
it for me" incident happens so often - the first person allowed
a small air leak to start and when the second person tried to
open it the vacuum had broken. (This is actually physics not
house hold hints anyway :^> ).
Bonnie
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22.29 | | QUARK::LIONEL | Free advice is worth every cent | Mon Mar 02 1987 21:14 | 9 |
| Re: .27
Lee - that you know of a woman who is stronger than all the men
you know doesn't change things - the AVERAGE woman is muscularly
weaker (in upper body strength - I have no information on other
parts of the body) than the AVERAGE man. I am certain that there
are women stronger than I am, but most are not (and I am not
particularly muscular).
Steve
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22.30 | fast/slow muscle tissue | KALKIN::BUTENHOF | Approachable Systems | Tue Mar 03 1987 07:57 | 23 |
| Male and female muscle tissues grow differently... or rather,
they grow the same, but have different specialties. Male muscle
tissue more easily increases in bulk, giving the mass and brute
strength needed for hoisting a bar bell. Female muscle tissue
more easily increases in density, giving the quick strength
needed for athletics and dancing.
However, both sexes have both types of muscle tissue, and both
can be developed. A male athlete or dancer needs to be a little
more careful than a similarly inclined woman to avoid becoming
muscle-bound (and losing flexibility/agility); on the other hand,
a woman weight lifter needs to work a little harder to *get* the
necessary muscle bulk for heavy lifting, and to show off all
those muscle lumps demonstrated in body building competitions.
The important thing is that, in both cases, either sex is
perfectly capable of developing the appropriate types of muscle
tissue, and of "getting the job done". As in most such issues,
the real difference is cultural: women (in most "civilized"
cultures) don't tend to exercise as heavily or regularly, and in
general simply aren't encouraged to build strength.
/dave
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22.32 | crazy female driver | JACUZI::DAUGHAN | fight individualism | Tue Mar 03 1987 09:52 | 5 |
| eagle,
i think the stress comes in when the woman tries to drive the mans
car while he is in it!!!!!! we(women)never seem to drive it just
right!
kelly
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22.33 | Every kitchen should have one... | TRIPPR::POLLERT | Kathy Pollert | Tue Mar 03 1987 11:06 | 10 |
|
Re: .25 and .26
Where I do my grocery shopping, they have these green plastic
gadgets used for opening jars. They are commonly refered to
as "Rubber Husbands".
Kathy
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22.34 | _I_ drive _my_ car, _you_ drive _yours_ | NRLABS::TATISTCHEFF | | Tue Mar 03 1987 12:16 | 6 |
| re: .31
I get pretty upset when _anyone_ else drives my car. Be they male
or female, makes me nervous.
My $.02 -- Lee
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22.35 | Hmmmmm..... | GENRAL::FRASHER | An opinion for any occasion | Tue Mar 03 1987 14:24 | 13 |
| .31, good point, and why??? I dunno.
I have my truck that always has my fishing gear in it and I can
use it to haul lumber, dirt and such things. My wife
has her truck that will carry passengers if needed. Mon-Fri, I
drive the truck, she drives the 4-Runner. BUT, on weekends, I drive
the 4-Runner and she rides. The 4-Runner is better for shopping,
going to restaurants, etc., but I ALWAYS drive. But, I can't come
up with a reason for it except that its always been that way.
Very intriguing thought. )-)
Spence
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22.36 | I vote for letting "HIM" drive! | REGENT::KIMBROUGH | This is being hostessed | Tue Mar 03 1987 14:31 | 15 |
| Well I hate to drive so if someone wants to do the driving I don't
usually complain..
I also hate nervous drivers, one of which I am, so I try and spare
most people having to contend with me at the wheel. I am the "old
lady" type driver that practically eats the steering wheel as I clutch
it so tightly... I stuff my purse down behind me to keep my back
straight and I am a very comical sight at the wheel.. I don't have
a problem with it but I do with someone watching me! ;-)
Next time you are driving behind a Sunday driver going 43.2 in a
55 mile per hour zone.. take pity... it is most likely me!!!!!
;-) bruuuuuuuum bruuuuuuuuum
gailann
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22.37 | The confession of a woman driver!! | ROYCE::RKE | dragons slain....maids rescued | Tue Mar 03 1987 15:32 | 0 |
22.38 | Differences..Differences | NWD002::SAMMSRO | Robin Samms,Seattle | Wed Mar 04 1987 14:06 | 12 |
| It seems she always wants me to drive,even though we've both
had some racing experience and she's a most capable driver.
She once explained that 'Id rather sightsee'.
I like to drive so it seems to work out.
On the debate of male and female strength ,has anyone seen
any research on the relative speed of reflexes between males and
females ? I for one am a great admirer(sp) of the greater flexibility
which women seem to retain so easily ,and which men lose as easily
as we all age.
--Robin
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22.40 | ISM.....SCHISM? | NWD002::SAMMSRO | Robin Samms,Seattle | Thu Mar 05 1987 01:50 | 10 |
| re .39
It may be male sexism here but I also do the creative cooking
...she does the dishes. But I see the point ,yes men do assume the
burdens in many cases, In our marriage she does the yard work,
I maintain any thing mechanical. This gets complex ...is this now
female sexism? . (she likes gardening,I like machines)
My rastafarian friends in Jamaica have a saying "ISM..SCHISM"
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22.41 | Touch my truck and you'll wanna go home.. | KLAATU::THIBAULT | Swimmers Do It Wetter | Thu Mar 05 1987 12:11 | 9 |
| Re: .39
> Men seem to take on the dirty and difficult or less fun tasks
> because for some reason we all accept that as "proper" !!!
There's a sucker born every minute...
Bahama Mama
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22.43 | Truckin', got my chips cashed in... | KLAATU::THIBAULT | Swimmers Do It Wetter | Thu Mar 05 1987 12:36 | 7 |
| re: .42
You know I'm only picking on you Eagloid..I kinda like being helped
myself...especially when changing headlights since I can never get the screws
out, and Dad didn't give me the right tool when he bought me my toolbox.
Bahama Mama
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22.44 | | STUBBI::B_REINKE | the fire and the rose are one | Thu Mar 05 1987 22:41 | 3 |
| re .40
That's not sexism that's personal taste.
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22.46 | | FOLES::FOLEY | Rebel without a clue | Sat Mar 07 1987 23:59 | 9 |
|
I don't see what's so hard about driving in London.. Driving
on the "wrong" side is actually easier than on the "right" side.
Sorry to go off on a tangent.. Back to our regularly scheduled
topic.
mike
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22.47 | London, no problem | ROYCE::RKE | nannoo nannoo........shazzbar. | Sun Mar 08 1987 08:58 | 6 |
| Driving on the wrong side is no problem, every one is doing it.
One way streets are not even a challenge, you can only go one way.
Two way streets are a problem.........
Richard.
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22.48 | Who cares who wins? | LILAC::MKPROJ | REAGAN::ZORE | Fri May 15 1987 13:13 | 24 |
| I brought in a pie I made one time and one of the ladies at
work (who was into womans' lib) ask me if my wife made it. I thought
that was kind of sexist since I wasn't even married at the time.
As far as the female body being weaker than the male body, you
have to remember that men have been taking the lead in "strength"
tasks for such a long time that it may be that women have evolved
"weaker" bodies. That being said I should also say that I don't
believe it one bit.
Women do have stronger bodies when it comes to resisting disease
and other effects of the environment. So who's to say who's stronger?
Many of the earlier notes seem to refer to strength only in terms
of being able to lift weights (ie. muscle power) however there are
many other areas where women are stronger than men. Disease resistance
and resistance to cold are two that come to mind. (Am I being sexist
now? Sorry if I am, I'm new to this notes file.)
As far as women letting the hard tasks fall to the men I must
have a very unusual wife. When we were clearing land for our house
she was right out there swinging a machete and de-limbing trees
I had cut down. One week later she gave birth to our first child
Kate who happenned to be a week and a half late. MY WIFE! STRONG
LIKE OX, WORKS IN FIELD!!! Ruff! Ruff! :-)
Rich Z
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22.49 | don't forget the economic aspect | DEBIT::RANDALL | Bonnie Randall Schutzman | Fri May 15 1987 15:52 | 14 |
| Feminine weakness is a middle/upper-class luxury. When you're
scrambling to make ends meet, to wrest a living from uncooperative
fields or uncaring cities, you don't have time to say "oh, that's
just l'il ol' me, I can't possibly lift that big bale of hay for
the horse." You feed the horse.
I grew up chopping and stacking wood, heaving car parts around the
garage, and generally not being very feminine in that regard. Even
now I can do more work around the yard and house than my husband
can -- lift more, move more, last longer. Oddly enough, though,
when we were tested at a fitness center a couple of years ago, they
measured him as considerably stronger.
--bonnie
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22.50 | | SPMFG1::CHARBONND | | Mon May 18 1987 05:45 | 3 |
| re .49 Don't confuse strength with endurance - most marathon
runners aren't heavy lifters and most bodybuilders can't run
26+ miles. (Maybe he's just clever :-) )
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22.51 | hm, maybe, but . . . | CREDIT::RANDALL | Bonnie Randall Schutzman | Mon May 18 1987 09:35 | 10 |
| Well, he is a marathoner . . . and he certainly is clever! :)
But I was talking about around-the-house tasks that would seem to
involve mostly strength, like who lifts the storm door and holds
it in place while the other one screws in the hinges. He could
barely lift it, while I found it easy to lift and hold steady. Yet
he can bench press almost twice what I can.
--bonnie
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22.52 | "strength", like "intelligence", is subjective | KALKIN::BUTENHOF | Approachable Systems | Mon May 18 1987 11:44 | 20 |
| .51: I suspect a larger part of the difference might be that
you *know how to lift* better than he does. Experience in
lifting does that. Lifting a door in front of you is
substantially different from bench pressing a bar bell.
While some of the raw muscle power would transfer (not all,
since the leverage is different, and some different muscles
will come into play), the *skill* won't transfer well at
all.
As for health club "strength measurements", I wouldn't put too
much value on that... it depends on exactly what they measure,
how they measure it, etc. It's like the saw about IQ tests: all
IQ tests really measure is how good the person is at taking IQ
tests.
In short... obviously he's stronger at lifting bar bells over
his chest. Just as obviously, you're stronger at lifting storm
doors.
/dave
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22.53 | Men don't cook, right? | QUARK::LIONEL | We all live in a yellow subroutine | Sun May 24 1987 00:51 | 20 |
| I think this may be the only reply actually on the topic....
I recently bought a newly-introduced food product, and enclosed
in the box was a survey card to be mailed in. After asking the
standard questions about the product itself, and who bought the
product ("Male head of household", "Female head of household",
"Other") it asks "Is the Female Head of Household employed?"
and "What is the age of the Female Head of Household?".
Now these last two questions are unanswerable, because there are
NO females in my household, and I am offended that they don't
give a damn about my opinion because I'm male. (If I were a female,
I'd be equally incensed about the first question, as it's unlikely
I'd be looking at this survey card if I wasn't at least employed
in the home as a homemaker.)
I will return the card (their stamp), and note my displeasure.
The product (Nestle Toll House Ready to Bake Cookies) wasn't
that good either.
Steve
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22.54 | He COOKS?.. | NWD002::SAMMSRO | Robin Samms | Sun May 24 1987 02:38 | 20 |
| Re:-1
Steve,I laughed when I read your note ,it reminded me of
a form of sexism I get subjected to often.
I am the cook in our house,my wife does not like to cook,
and a long time ago ,we made a deal.
I do most of the cooking ,and definitely all the major meals,
guests,family dinners ,etc are my responsibility.
I constantly watch to hear and see the reaction of her friends
and acquaintances (female) when they find out that I did or do
the cooking ,some comments:
'My you've trained him well'
'How did you ever swing that ?'
'Was it easy to teach him'
etc,etc.
It's been an source of amusement to us .
...Robin
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22.56 | Le sexisme est toujours a double tranchant... | SHIRE::MILLIOT | Mimi, Zoziau, Vanille-Fraise & Co | Mon May 25 1987 07:37 | 32 |
| Dans mon ecole (Ecole Superieure de Commerce), on trouve deux sections
principales : Secretariat et Gestion
Il y a de plus en plus de filles qui vont en Gestion, bien que les
employeurs fassent parfois (souvent) la grimace. Mais tenez-vous
bien, il n'y a pas UN garcon en Secretariat !
Pourquoi ? Deja parce que le secretariat est considere comme un
travail de fille (meme s'il n'y a que des secretaires d'Etat
masculins), ce qui constituerait plutot une forme de sexisme envers
les femmes; mais surtout, aucun garcon n'oserait aller en secretariat,
ce serait quelque chose de tellement enorme, un garcon qui
manifesterait ce desir serait immediatement traite d'homosexuel,
de fille, il serait moque, et de toutes facons, il ne trouverait
jamais un employeur qui veuille de lui !
Le sexisme est a double sens : Lorsque j'etais enfant, les filles
etaient obligees de faire de la couture, les garcons faisaient des
travaux manuels. Impossibilite pour les filles de faire du bricolage
(ce n'etait pas une activite feminisante, nous devions apprendre
a repasser et repriser les chemises de notre futur mari.. il y 8
ans seulement de ca), impossibilite pour les garcons d'apprendre
a recoudre un bouton (puisque les filles allaient etre la pour ca..)
A present, les garcons comme les filles font de la couture, du
repassage, du tricot, du raccommodage. Ceci n'est plus considere
comme une activite avilissante, et feminine, mais bien comme un
atout fort utile pour la suite, une connaissance pratique quasiment
indispensable.
Zoziau
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22.57 | Rough Translation (this was a tough one...) | GCANYN::TATISTCHEFF | | Mon May 25 1987 12:30 | 34 |
| -< Sexism is always double-edged ...>-
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In my school ([a good business school]), there are two major sections:
secretariat [the discipline of being a secretary...] and management
There are more and more girls going into management, even though
employers aren't always (ever) thrilled about it. But consider,
there is not ONE boy in the secretariat !
Why? Already because being a secretary is considered girl's work
(even though there are only male Secretaries of State), which
would be more a form of reverse sexism ; but especially, no boy
would dare to go into the secretariat, that would be something so
huge, a boy who wanted to do this would be immediately treated as
a homosexual, a girl, he would be mocked, and in any cas, he would
never find an employer who would want him!
The sexism is an a double sense: when I was a chid, girls were obliged
to do sewing [literally, but I think she is referring to a broader
sense of couture...], and the boys did manual work. It was impossible
for the girls to do odd jobs (not an activity which would make good
women out of us, we should have been learning to iron and mend the
shirts of our future husband... there are only eaight years of that).
Impossible for the boys to learn how t put a button back on (since
girls were going to be there for that..)
Now, both boys and girls do sewing, ironing, knitting,
repairing/mending. This is no longer considered degrading and
feminine, but very like a trump card extremely useful for later,
a practical knowledge almost indespensible.
Zoziau
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22.58 | don't you love being treated as a statistic? | ESP::CONNELLY | I think he broke the President, man! | Mon May 25 1987 19:27 | 10 |
| re: Steve's cookies
"Dear Mrs. Connelly" is right up there with "YOU may have
already won!!!" as one of those red flags indicating that
what I am starting to read should go immediately into the
trash (do not pass Go, do not collect (my) $200) without
any further mental effort being expended. Amazing how I
managed to get this far without my 1.1 wives and 2.2 rug
rats...:-)
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22.59 | | AXEL::FOLEY | Rebel without a clue | Fri May 29 1987 01:40 | 9 |
| RE: .52
Sound like the one that goes like
"All diagnostics tells you is that diagnostics runs."
:-)
mike
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22.60 | I think this is a repeat, it sounds familiar. | TRACER::FRASHER | Undercover mountain man | Fri May 29 1987 13:52 | 10 |
| We square dance. My wife needed a green skirt for the St. Patricks
Day dance and she didn't have one. She doesn't sew, so I made her
a skirt. When we got to the dance, all of the women she knew came
over and said "Oh, that's a nice skirt, did you make it?". When
she told them that *I* made it, I got some weird looks. Then they
all had to look at the hems to see how good of a job it was.
I'm known in the local craft store as 'the man who knits'.
Spence
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22.61 | RE:.58 ...etc | SAVAGE::LOCKRIDGE | Artificial Insanity | Fri May 29 1987 13:55 | 13 |
| RE: .58
I love answering the phone to hear "Is Mrs. Lockridge there?" Seems
that if you own a home, one automatically HAS to be married. Instead of
replying that the is NO Mrs. Lockridge, I should reply that she lives
in Tucson, AZ (where my sister-in-law lives) or that she is dead (my
mother).
I have also noted that most cookbooks deny the fact that men DO cook
(but then again I have some old cookbooks when, that was "the woman's
job"!)
-Bob
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22.62 | Its for you <snicker, snicker> | TRACER::FRASHER | Undercover mountain man | Fri May 29 1987 15:16 | 10 |
| re .61
I love to have a salesman call and ask for 'the lady of the house'
or Mrs. Frasher. I hand her the phone and she starts listening
to the sales pitch. After a couple of minutes of boredom, she says
something like "I have no idea, you'll have to talk to my husband"
or "I'm sorry, my husband already has a sewing machine".
BTW, we have his and hers lawnmowers. Hers is new.
Spence
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22.63 | Little is fun! | WARLRD::CFLETCHER | Short Stuff | Fri Jun 19 1987 15:17 | 40 |
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Re: About women being as strong as men. I think that they can
be, if they are about the same size.
But... How many men do you know that are 5.0, and 95.5lbs?
When there is something heavy to lift or move, I will try my best,
and then get my SO to do it.
And then there are those stupid jar lids. I've got itsy bitsy hands.
It's impossible for me to get a good grip on big jar lids. My SO
rescues me again.
I've never played the po' lil' ol' me routine - it makes me wanna
puke when I see women do that.
Of course being little like me can have its advantages. Quite a
few times, I've helped my SO reach for things while fixing his car
- his big ol' hands can't reach in little places.
Bye, Y'all!
Corinne
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22.64 | | TINMAN::SUTTON | N42�47'4" W71�7'30" | Fri Jul 24 1987 13:16 | 6 |
| re .59:
I resemble that remark!! (-:
- John, Low End Diagnostics
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22.67 | :-) :-) | ARCANA::CONNELLY | You think _this_ is the work of a serious artist? | Fri Sep 18 1987 22:37 | 3 |
| re: .66
The truth hurts, eh?
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