| Title: | What's all this fuss about "sax and violins"? |
| Notice: | Please read all replies to note 1 |
| Moderator: | QUARK::LIONEL |
| Created: | Thu Jan 21 1993 |
| Last Modified: | Thu May 08 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 133 |
| Total number of notes: | 1901 |
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Steve
Please help us! I need some tactful advice on how to handle this
situation. We have new neighbors in the house in back of us. Although
they are both very nice people.....we can't go in our back yard without
them coming over! It's getting to be a real pain the you know what!
A little background....I'll call them Pat and Glen.....Pat is home now
with a new little one and a 4 year old. I have a son that's almost 3.
Pat thinks it's just wonderful that her son has a little friend in the
neighborhood and constantly opens up my back gate and welcomes herself
into my yard. Please don't get me wrong....I think it's great that the
kids can get together and play...sometimes......not every single time
we are out in our yard! We both work full time...often after work or
on the weekend we'll all go out in the yard and do yardwork/play with
my son for an hour or 2 at a time. Last night was the last straw...my
parents are here visiting and she pulled in her driveway and marched
herself and the 2 kids right into my yard knowing full well that we had
company! (yes I consider my parents company!) She didn't stay long
but I still consider this an intrusion of my privacy - I wouldn't think
of doing this to any of my neighbors or friends!
I can't stand it anymore....I want to be able to go in my own yard
without having to socialize with her every single time I'm out there!
How would you handle this?
Thanks!
| T.R | Title | User | Personal Name | Date | Lines |
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| 132.1 | Lock the gate! | WMOIS::SULLIVAN_JK | Thu Apr 24 1997 12:09 | 3 | |
Try putting a lock on your gate.
Ken
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| 132.2 | just tell them | ASDG::CALL | Fri Apr 25 1997 12:33 | 6 | |
I agree..it's kind of like locking the barn door after the horse has
gotten out...it might cause you to explain you're feelings. Since
you'll need to do that anyway...you might just tell them how you feel
and set some boundrys. Some people don't know when they cross that line
so you just have to tell them. You don't want to do it in a way that
alienates them. You still want to have a cival relationship with them.
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