| Title: | What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'? |
| Notice: | Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS |
| Moderator: | ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI |
| Created: | Fri May 09 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Wed Jun 26 1996 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1327 |
| Total number of notes: | 28298 |
A good friend of ours is going through a seperation. It's not
a bitter fight, but he left her with 3 kids and no income. She's
trying to hold on to her house and has taken a border and opened
her house up for day care. It's got to be tough.
She's "getting along", but we'd like to do something to ease the
way. What do folks who are in her situation (sudden
seperation/divorce, not her fault) *really* want? We talk and
are supportive verbally as possible, but is there anything more
that we could do, that she'd really appreciate? Folks with
experience, please speak up.
We think of things we'd want (time away from the kids, time
alone to think, etc), but she lives a bit away and it would
a bit hard to do this (given that we have 3 small ones of our
own). She has an open offer from us for financal support,
but she won't take it. We thi
Any suggestions?
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| 1302.1 | GROCERY STORE CERTIFICATE? | MSDOA::FRISELLA | Tue Sep 22 1992 10:17 | 14 | |
Sorry to hear that your friend is going through such a tough time. One
suggestion just off the top of my head is to give her a gift
certificate for, say, $150.00 to a local grocery store. They usually
have "chain" grocery stores in the state that covers a large territory.
If you are afraid of her not taking the money/certificate then you
could just send her a "thinking of you" card with the certificate in
it. I bet that she would luv it and it would help out immensely.
Also, that way she wouldn't have the face to face pressure of taking
money from you.
Give her my best,
L.
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| 1302.2 | XCUSME::HOGGE | I am the King of Nothing | Wed Sep 23 1992 09:56 | 9 | |
Drop a care package off on her door step, if she has young ones, some
disposable diappers, formula, baby food, toys, clothes.... etc.
Drop it in the late evening and leave.
It won't solve many of her problems. but it might help take some worry
off for a few days.
Skip
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| 1302.3 | What she needs is what's most difficult. | ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI | Why not ask why? | Wed Sep 23 1992 12:31 | 10 |
I think that she needs what is most hard to give - the physical,
actual "being there for her" in support of her; to offer some relief and
the emotional comfort of just knowing someone cares enough to bother
to extend themselves on a most personal basis, for their well being.
A sack of groceries or a check - in any amount - just isnt the
same thing.
Joe
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