Conference quark::human_relations-v1

    
    Well, yes....I hadn't a clue what he looked like, but I liked what
    I'd read of his brain! (if you see what I mean...)
    
    It was just such a peculiar feeling - I wondered how other people
    handle it. Or do they consider it part of the "fun"?
    'gail
    

From the way you describe it, you've got sparks flying.  Does your boyfriend
know about this ?  If not, that in itself might explain some of the feelings
you're having.  Such confusions are not foreign to me personally.

/Eric

    I agree with .3
    
    You've got some different expectations from this.........It would
    definitly (sp?) make me nervous......
    
    ....Bob

    Hhhmmmmmmmm......this all sounds so familiar!   (*8
    
    E Grace

    Why E Grace flutter flutter, what makes you courious about that?
    
    Bonnie

    1. Hi Bonnie! How have you been ? :-)
    
    
    2. Sounds like there is a little chemistry between you too...if you
    have a boyfriend, be careful if you develop feelings for him, cause
    someone will take a fall if you dont.
    
    
    Lynne

    >>          <<< Note 1109.6 by WMOIS::B_REINKE "bread&roses" >>>

    >>Why E Grace flutter flutter, what makes you courious about that?
    
    >>Bonnie
    
    
    
    I'm just the curious type, I guess!
    
    {:8
    
    E Grace

    
    Interesting - .1 seems to have disappeared....
    Oh well.
    
    In entering the basenote I was more interested in other people's
    experience of "first meeting nerves" rather than input into my
    situation, but your comments have been insightful anyways...
    
    In answer to a couple of questions:-
    Yes, my boyfriend knew about it. It wasn't a "romantic date".
    
    And we had a great time. Talked for 14 hours solid, and set to rights
    life, the universe, religion, politics and a few other minor subjects 
    :-) I found that he was a pretty shy guy face to face, so at least
    we were both nervous. And we both said so, which helped.
    
    
    

    And then, WHAT?
    why the nerves? it takes a lot or energy to talk 14 hours with one person
    without a structured subject... or subjects... and what did the
    boyfriend do during those 14 hours?     

    Hopefully he was out with someone who could talk for 14 hours
    too.....;-} Perhaps.....................

    
    He was playing/watching football, to the best of my knowledge....
    
    'gail

    I think you people are trying to read too much into this...
    
    'gail, as many noters as I've met now, I still get nervous the first 
    time I meet them face to face.  A lot of things buzz through my mind.
    I've learned from experience that some people aren't what I would
    expect.  Others are more then I've expected... and some have turned out
    to be wonderful friends while others have just faded away and never 
    heard from again.  If you have some shy tendencies then it isn't
    unusual to feel a bit jittery when you meet someone the first time.
    
    I have a very strong and wonderful relationship with my girlfriend...
    it doesn't stop me from seeing other girls for lunch sometimes or
    having social meetings with them.  My girlfriend has male friends that 
    she associates with both from work and her exercise classes... I don't 
    have a problem with her seeing them and I know she doesn't have a 
    problem with me seeing my friends regardless if it's for the first time
    or whatever.  It's called "being secure in the relationship" and it 
    is a lot more rare then people claim it is.
    
    Skip

	Coincidentally, I'm in a very similar position to the writer of
the basenote.   It was quite strange to stumble across this note, which 
captures exactly what I'm feeling.   I'm going to be seeing a noting/mail 
friend this evening, and I feel quite nervous.   I don't exactly know what to 
expect, but I guess if I looked at myself, I'd have to admit I have some hope 
of a romantic outcome.

	I'm glad that the meeting referred to in the basenote worked out
well for Gail, and I hope that's a good omen for me!   What happened next for
you, Gail?   Will you see this guy again?

Regards,
Andrew.

    
    RE -1
    
    Well, it looks as if this noter has moved into the "wonderful friend"
    category for now....and yes, I hope to see him again sometime. Luckily
    his business brings him over here quite often - we do seem to have
    a great deal more to talk about (even after the 14 hour intro!)
    
> I don't exactly know what to expect, but I guess if I looked at myself, I'd 
> have to admit I have some hope of a romantic outcome.         
    
    Hope your expectation works out Andrew. I went into my situation
    with no expectations at all....it seems safer that way. Mind you,
    if you drop the expectation, and it does turn out to be the Romance
    of the Century for you, it could be a wonderful surprise....
    
    Good Luck!
    'gail                 
    

    RE -1
    
>    Well, it looks as if this noter has moved into the "wonderful friend"
>    category for now....and yes, I hope to see him again sometime.

	I'm really glad to hear it.
    
>    Hope your expectation works out Andrew. I went into my situation
>    with no expectations at all....it seems safer that way. 

	I agree expectations can be dangerous, but it's difficult to
suppress hope.   Actually, it was a wonderful weekend.   I can't remember when
I've enjoyed myself more.   It's too early to speak about "Romance of the
Century", but there must be something to explain the foolish grin that I've
caught myself wandering around with recently, whenever I'm not thinking about
work.

	Perhaps the four of us could get together some time, Gail, if we all 
happened to be in the same country. :-)

Regards,
Andrew.

    Just so's ya know... that IS how I and M.G. met back in March and it's 
    gotten better ever since.
    
    Oh we've had a few rough spots... but we've managed to work them out.
    
    Skip

    
    Re -1
    
    Skip - thanks for that. It's great to know that these things can work
    out once the "madness" has worn off....
    
    Re -2
    
    Sure Andrew - let me know if you two are going to be in London.
    Mind you, with all four of us staring besottedly into our "loved one's"
    eyes (or me and him talking like crazy, you two star-gazing) it may
    not be a very social meeting....;-)
                                                                   
    'gail
    

    I always get nervous meeting people for the first time. I'm better than
    I used to be - just lately spent a lot of time meeting new people. But
    the old 'flutter' will be there...
    
    Pete.