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1058.1 | | DUGGAN::RON | | Thu Aug 09 1990 19:50 | 9 |
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I guess you are just unlucky. Years ago, I had a female apartment
mate for a year. As hard as it is to believe, she never fell for me
:-) (nor I for her). We were friendly enough, but never developed a
friendship. Except for as couple of times she didn't do the dishes
on her turn, we never had a problem.
-- Ron
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1058.2 | | SCHOOL::KIRK | Matt Kirk -- 297-6370 | Thu Aug 09 1990 21:11 | 3 |
| I've had several female roommates - never any problems, and never any
romance. They were no better or worse than any other roommates I've
had. I agree with .1 - you were unlucky.
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1058.3 | | SELECT::GALLUP | There's a WLDKAT on the loose! | Fri Aug 10 1990 10:50 | 25 |
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I'm currently living with two guys. And dating another guy (that
I don't live with :-) ). We have absolutely no problems getting
along, I don't see any "jealousy" in the least, in fact, they are
both dating other people, but even if they weren't I doubt I
would see it.
I think in our house there's an understood "he/she's a roommate."
Although, I must say, both of them are pretty damn goodlooking, if
I do say so myself (and I think many people would agree). :-)
I also have another male/female roommate situation when I lived in
Colorado. My mother was mortified, of course, because she can't get
past the mental block that men and women can be friends and
not go mad with lust everytime they see each other. We had a decent
roommate situation, I suppose. Sometimes I felt like I was being
judged for the things that I did, but it wasn't because of
jealousy, it was just how he was. We rarely even saw each other
so it really wasn't a problem.
kath
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1058.4 | | SWAM2::SIMKINS_GI | | Fri Aug 10 1990 14:20 | 12 |
| .1/.2/.3: my thoughts exactly! It was so clearly agreed upon in the
beginning and I continued whenever anyone questioned it to put it
straight. I was shocked that this happened. What I didn't realize was
that this person who is about 200 lbs overweight had no love life at
all and hadn't for years, didn't even date. The (bizarre) behavior
ultimately bordered on threatening and at the urging of friends and a
counselor I went to see because of this I am moving out. I had never
dealt with anything like this before. I could not imagine it. But it
did happen. Sometimes you just don't really know someone until you
share the same household. If it happened to me somthing similar has
probably happened to someone else.
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1058.5 | was it the woman or the cat ? | HANNAH::OSMAN | see HANNAH::IGLOO$:[OSMAN]ERIC.VT240 | Thu Sep 06 1990 11:47 | 19 |
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I've had good luck with women roommates.
Even someone as easily stimulated (!) as myself managed every time
in the last 15 years *not* to try to "get involved" with any of my
female roommates.
My latest situation now is three men living together. I hope it
works as well as when Tracy (the woman that just moved out) was with
us. I wanted another woman to move in to replace her, but Sid the
other man in the house had a male friend that wanted to move in, and
I agreed so now there are three men.
I found the balance was real good when Tracy was there. I hope the
balance can continue even though we're now three men. (gee, maybe
it was her CAT that provided the balance, so maybe we should get
another one of those...)
/Eric
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