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| 1009.1 | | CONURE::AMARTIN | MARRS needs women | Fri May 18 1990 08:25 | 3 |
| In my opinion, you have already answered your own question.....
Call him and talk about it. Talk can cure alot of things ya know.....
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| 1009.2 | | NSSG::FEINSMITH | I'm the NRA | Wed May 30 1990 12:29 | 8 |
| You must also take into consideration, that he has overhead costs for
the apartment building that must be met. I don't know where you live,
but 400/month for an apt. doesn't sound bad as far as rents go, but if
the money isn't there in the first place, the point is moot anyway.
As -1 said, try a call and see where it goes. The worst thing that can
happen is you wasted a message unit or two.
Eric
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| 1009.3 | TAKE it or LEAVE it! | MILKWY::BUSHEE | From the depths of shattered dreams! | Mon Jun 04 1990 15:09 | 15 |
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RE: .2
What difference does it make if he even has zero overhead?
Do you ask all your landlords to show you just where evey cent
you pay for your rent goes? I know if it were me as the landlord,
I'd tell him it's none of his business and either accept the terms
or pack and move out. Nobody should be expected to give away an
apartment to another just because they are friends. To me that
would be taking advantage of your friend to ask for the apartment
and not expect to pay fair market value rent. Where is it written
that friendship also includes the right to a free apartment
furnished by your friend?
G_B
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| 1009.4 | | NPOGRP::MALLETT | | Mon Jun 04 1990 16:50 | 26 |
| re: .3 (George)
� Nobody should be expected to give away an apartment to another
� just because they are friends. . .Where is it written that
� friendship also includes the right to a free apartment furnished
� by your friend?
Agreed as far as it goes. But where in the base note was it
written that anyone expected a free apartment? As nearly as
I can tell that's not the issue here.
From .0:
� Well after thinking it over I did'nt want to spend that kind
� of money on an apartment so I told him I could not move in
� because I could not afford it while I'm in school and all.
� He got really mad. . .[and]. . .started saying things behind
� my back recently and I just want to call him and tell him to
� grow up but I also want to call him and settle things between us.
Where is it written that a landlord has any "right" to expect
his friend (or anyone else, for that matter to move in? It seems
to me that the value of the apartment isn't being questioned but
how to go about resolving a problem between former friends.
Steve
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| 1009.5 | | ARRODS::CARTER | Pyurdedbrilyant! | Tue Jun 05 1990 07:05 | 18 |
| re .3
I don't think you read the basenote...
The issue seems to be that the guy with the apartment wanted his friend to move
in with him, but his friend couldn't afford it so the guy took the huff...
I would say talk it over with him, but you were right to say "I can't afford it"
that is surely better than moving in and then not being able to afford it and
end up owing the friend money.
If the friend really wanted you to share they could have said "Ok. what can you
afford?"...
Xtine
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| 1009.6 | DRIP,DRIP, DRIP | GLDOA::MORELAND | | Fri Oct 05 1990 17:36 | 20 |
| RE: CARTER
I agree with you. He told him that he couldn't afford the $400.00/M
and that should have been that. I really question his "friend's"
commitment to this so-called "friendship." Four hundred dollars is
four hundred dollars and if the guy can't afford it his friend should
take it at that. There was no need for him to interject "questionable"
integrity into it; "You always go back on your word."
If I were acquainted with someone and this type of issue could cause
such a caustic backlash I would see it for what it may be; not a real
friendship.
It's important to remember that length of acquaintance, moments shared,
and common interest don't necessarily make for a FRIENDSHIP. It's very
possible that you two were never really that good of friends to begin
with and this could just be an illumination of that probability.
I'm not saying that this is the situation, but have you considered it?
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| 1009.7 | whose problem is it, really? | PARITY::ELWELL | Dirty old men need love, too. | Thu Oct 18 1990 10:53 | 8 |
| Seems to me that no commitment was made. You just re-thought it and
decided not to take it. If he has a real problem with that, then maybe
the friendship wasn't that much of one, but try to talk to him with
no beating around the bush. If he doesn't want to hear it, then it's
probably time to back out, and let him do what he thinks he has to. You
will have done your part. Sounds cruel, but........
....Bob
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