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| 870.1 | I'd ask her. | IAMOK::KOSKI | This ::NOTE is for you | Tue Oct 17 1989 12:42 | 7 |
| With such an informal invitation (a phone message) I wouldn't hesitate
in asking her outright if she minds if you bring a guest. Likely she
felt uncomfortable, especially talking to your machine, about
mentioning a guest. Friends and acquaintances often feel awkward when
inviting divorced/separated guests.
Gail
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| 870.2 | | WAHOO::LEVESQUE | The trigger doesn't pull the finger | Tue Oct 17 1989 13:40 | 3 |
| Listen to Gail. When in doubt, ask.
The Doctah
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| 870.3 | Ask before bringing your guest.... | TRNPRC::SIGEL | Welcome to Your Life | Tue Oct 17 1989 16:50 | 10 |
| Here is my 2 cts worth: If an invitation does not say for example :
Lynne Sigel and guest, then it is just you that is invited, I would
call up the person who is having the party and ask if you can bring a
guest. If the function is being catered, than maybe the host or hostess
only wants to pay for a certain amount of plates to go with the budget
that they can afford.
Good Luck :-)
Lynne
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| 870.4 | Ask her | SSDEVO::CHAMPION | Letting Go: The Ultimate Adventure | Tue Oct 17 1989 17:14 | 0 |
| 870.5 | | CURIE::LEVINE | Insert Witty Remark Here | Tue Oct 17 1989 18:31 | 20 |
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I agree that you should ask her, but you may want to be careful of your
wording. It doesn't seem right, to me, to make it seem as though your
stance is "I want to bring a date, or I won't come." (This may
actually be the case, but as this is not likely to be a cheap affair,
you should try to determine your hostess' original intentions).
I would say something to the effect of: "I got your message regarding
the party, but am not sure if the invitation was meant to include a
guest." Making it a matter of unclear communication (which it seems to
be) does not put her in the position of having to deny your bringing a
guest. She may well say that she hadn't thought you would want to
bring one, and are welcome to do so, but she may also say that no, this
is intended to be a small affair. Either way, she is not being put in
the position of denying, but of clarifying.
That's what I'd do,
Sarah
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| 870.6 | Ask | WAYLAY::GORDON | savages from Indianapolis... | Tue Oct 17 1989 18:59 | 8 |
| As someone who's throwing a surprise anniversary party for my parents
30th this coming weekend, I'll join in with those who say ask. We did try to
accomodate those who might bring guests, (we issued printed invitations) but
we still had a few folks call and ask if they could bring extras. With the
exception of children (it's an evening cocktail reception, not a sit-down
dinner), we were more than happy to permit guests.
--Doug
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| 870.7 | | AWARD1::HARMON | | Wed Oct 18 1989 12:07 | 11 |
| I'd say ask most definitely! The daughters of my best friend are
having a surprise party for them and invitations were sent out. Many
have come back from people who were asked individually and have
responded that they would be bringing a guest. They daughters are in a
dilema as there's just so much room and they have a very tight budget.
Where your invitation is of a more casual sort (phone call), it would
probably eliminate confusion and hurt feelings if you asked.....besides
the answer will most likely be yes, bring a guest!
P.
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| 870.8 | problem resolved | GEMVAX::ROSS | | Wed Oct 18 1989 14:51 | 14 |
| Thanks for your opinions! My friend's daughter called again last
night to tell me that the date had changed. Apparently this party
is in the early planning stages. I asked if it's OK if I bring
a date and she said yes. Then she mentioned that she is going to
be MAILING invitations and when I RSVP I can let her know if I'm
bringing someone. When I asked her HOW she is handling RSVP's
to a surprise party (she lives with her parents), she hadn't
thought of that yet. Obviously if I called her parents house and
asked for her, something would seem a little strange. Anyway,
that's all worked out. Thanks again for your help.
Gale
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