Conference quark::human_relations-v1

    I'll just say it once:  you can say these things until it happens
    to YOU.
    
    Love IS blind...
    

    
    
    	Love is blind....
    
    		...and marriage is an eye opener...
    
    							My Mom.. :-)

From a song by Rogers and Hart:

	Mother told me
	Your looks don't rate so high.
	Don't you mind, 'cause love is blind
	The heart is quicker than the eye.

And, digressing a bit:

	Mother told me
	Don't drink with any guy.
	So, I was made on lemonade
	The heart is quicker than the Eye.

Mr. Hart was quite a wit...

    Marriage is a thought, a belief, a feeling.  Two people can be married
    without the slightest tie except their love.  If someone's ties
    aren't strong enough to keep them together, then all the laws in
    the world won't work either.  If one or the other too, has never
    really loved, then what they do will always cause pain, sometimes
    to others.
    
    Rings do not tie, they are the demonstrations of affection which
    both have agreed that make eachother happy.  I for one don't care
    if the other wears the ring.  A gentle, unexpected thought, a call
    when you don't expect it, a hug when you really need it.  They mean
    more than the most expensive diamond or gold band ever made.
    
    If a person hides his/her ring there must be a reason.  But I for
    one think better of people, not to judge them as bad.  How many
    wear rings who nothing except them to show.  And how many wear them
    when someone is gone, still remembering what it all meant to them?
    
    

I still wore the ring for quite a while, on my right hand, because my sons (and
unfortunately their mother) are still a part of my life.  Then one day it
started driving me crazy, causing blisters and what not.  So I had to stop
wearing it. 

We had identical rings, yet, her ring quickly faded from white gold to a dull
darkish grey, yet my ring stayed bright white gold.  Any idea why? One thought
was dishwashing, but I did as much or more then she did...

You figure it out...

Jim. 

    When my marriage started to go bad, I started wearing my ring on
    a chain around my neck, instead of on my finger. I did it as a 
    symbolic gesture. I didn't do it to fool prospective "affairs" into
    thinking I was single - I think that's incredibly sleazy.
    
    Now that I'm divorced the ring just sits in a drawer in my house.
    I suppose the right symbolic gesture would be to toss it into the
    ocean or something, but why throw money away?
    
    	- Rich

    When my divorce became fianl, I sold my old wedding ring to get
    the money to buy an electric drill to replace the one (MINE!!) which
    my ex had made off with when he moved his stuff out - needed to
    do some repair work in a hurry, and didn't have a hand drill.
    
    Come to think of it, it was the right decision, too!

    Yeah, but a lot of people are looking for something permanent whether
    they realize it immediately or not...
    
    Just remember the old saying our mother's taught us girls...
    
    If you marry a man who left his wife for you, you are marrying a
    man who cheats on his wife.  
    Right?  (Feel free to change according to siuation)
    
    Stacie
    

    
    RE:  .10
    
    Oooooohhhh, that's the ticket Mike !!!  8^)
    
    *Dwight*

    RE .0 AND .1
            I was in a relationship with a married woman for 2 1/2 years
    and I would do it again in a heartbeat(if I wasn't married).  Many
    people blamed it on my age, 18 at the time, but it's the happiest
    I've ever been, my marriage included!!
    
    BTW, her husband lived in VT. and she went to school at ZOOMASS
    in Amherst so it worked out good.