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Conference quark::human_relations-v1

Title:What's all this fuss about 'sax and violins'?
Notice:Archived V1 - Current conference is QUARK::HUMAN_RELATIONS
Moderator:ELESYS::JASNIEWSKI
Created:Fri May 09 1986
Last Modified:Wed Jun 26 1996
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1327
Total number of notes:28298

190.0. "waiters + weightees" by <Deleted> () Wed Jan 21 1987 09:22

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190.1Only Two?COOKIE::ZANEShattering RealityWed Jan 21 1987 13:3926
  My, what an incredibly small world you live in!
  
  I disagree completely.  The world is not composed merely of "waiters"
  and "weightees."  (BTW, was the word change deliberate on your part?
  You imply that those are "waited" upon are merely "weights." :^) ).
  There are people who fit into those categories, though.
  
  Waiters, in your definition, are willing, make that compelled, to serve 
  others at the whim and fancy of the others (weightees) and seem to be
  stuck with the weightees who are not even willing to serve themselves.
  Both are such extremes that I wonder if either kind can be happy with life.
  
  To answer your unwritten question, Kerry, I tend towards being a "waiter,"
  although I would absolutely refuse to "wait" upon a "weightee."  I am
  more than willing to share the "weight" and the "wait."  In other words,
  I want to be waited upon as much as I want to do the waiting.  I am
  not willing to do just one or the other.
  
  I absolutely disagree with the statement that "waiters" in the sense
  that you describe them can be anywhere near "healthy."
  
  
  							Terza
  
  
190.3don't replyCOOKIE::ZANEShattering RealityWed Jan 21 1987 14:5819
  Well, I suppose the weightees exist because there exists people to wait
  upon them!
  
  Are there people like that in your life?  Is there something you want
  to do about them? 
  
  Are there others out there who also have to deal with demanding,
  inconsiderate people?  How do you handle them?  Do you just ignore them?
  Or perhaps you are in a situation where you have no immediate choice but
  to deal with them, such as they are?
  
  Me, I'd like just to ignore them and their demands, or change my situation
  so that I have that choice.
  
  
  							Terza
  
  
190.4An idle observation, not intended to point at anyone in particularRDGENG::LESLIEAndy `{o}^{o}' Leslie, ECSSE. OSI.Thu Jan 22 1987 02:542
    What a nasty, shallow world we live in.
190.6An idyl observationDSSDEV::BURROWSJim BurrowsThu Jan 22 1987 12:535
        I disagree. I think it is a rich and beautiful world we live
        in. There are the occasional toads inhabitting it, but overall
        it is wonderful.
        
        JimB.
190.7thanksCOOKIE::ZANEShattering RealityThu Jan 22 1987 13:519
  I agree with you, Jim.  The world is a wonderful place.  Yeah, there
  are toads, but sometimes that makes our choices and our appreciation
  for wonderful things that much easier.
  
  
  							Terza
  
  
190.8Who can tell?RDGENG::LESLIEAndy `{o}^{o}' Leslie, ECSSE. OSI.Thu Jan 22 1987 15:171
    Yeah. Maybe itwas a mystery toad who clouded my judgement for a moment. 
190.9Shallow is a point of referenceBACH::COCHRANESend lawyers, guns and money.Mon Jan 26 1987 14:178
    It's whatcha make out of it.  If you chose to see shallow, then
    shallow it is.  Sometimes it takes a little closer scrutiny to
    find the beauty, but it's there.  If I didn't always look for
    it, I think I'd go insane.  However, on the other side of the
    coin, if all things in life were awe-inspiring and profound,
    we'd soon tire of reaching and falling short...
    
    Mary-Michael (yes, I'm still out there)
190.11From one Early to anotherRDGE00::EARLYHibernatingTue Mar 24 1987 12:036
    .10
    
    Absolutely Lovely, wish I'd been around to meet you when you
    were over here.