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Conference oass::babynames

Title:A list of All the BABYNAMES (shadow copy)
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Created:Tue Feb 13 1996
Last Modified:Fri May 30 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:996
Total number of notes:7139

237.0. "When you just can't agree." by AIMHI::FORTIER () Wed Jun 08 1988 09:57

    My husband and I are expecting our third child in 6 weeks. Our
    oldest is 11 and her name is Erin Teresa, our second is 17 months
    and her name is Traci Lynn.
    
    When our first was born we had a couple girls names picked out we
    liked. The nurse asked me what we were going to name her and since
    my husband wasn't there at the time I picked the one I liked best.
    
    When our second was due my husband and I again picked out afew girls
    names we liked. Since I named Erin he said he should get final choice
    on this ones name. He has a boys name he really likes but I don't
    like it at all. I was relieved when we had another girl. After she
    was born she was Baby Girl Fortier because none of the names we
    liked ahead of time seemed right for her. My parents were upset
    that we took so long naming her so we are once again coming up
    with names ahead.                           
    
    Well my husband still has the same boys named picked. Since I found
    out I was pregnant I've been refusing to believe that this could
    be a boy. I tell everyone it's a girl and her name is Danielle.
    No, I don't know for sure but maybe positive thinking will help.
    
    Its really not that bad of a name but for some stupid reason I just
    don't like it. I feel I would be acting like a B*tch to insist on
    a name that I like instead. 
    
    Has anyone ever been in this situation before? I don't want to be
    unreasonable but if I do have a boy can I love the kid but not the
    name? I've thought of just calling him something else but thats
    not fair to him. I don't think my husband will change his mind after
    liking this name for so long. If I insist on naming him something
    else our relationship will suffer for my selfishness.
    
    I've been having a very emotional pregnancy and this doesn't help.
    Any suggestions?
    Vickie
    
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237.1SKETCH::BASSETTDesignWed Jun 08 1988 12:061
  Can I ask what the name is?
237.2It could be worseMDVAX1::ELLISWed Jun 08 1988 16:2119
    
    My husband and I are just the reverse.  We had the
    kids named for years before we married. A boy would
    be called James Walter, nicknamed JW.  And the girl
    would be Kathryn Elizabeth, nicknamed Katie Beth.
    
    We are good at agreeing on names just not at agreeing
    on Kids.  JW finially joined us 3 years ago.  And we are
    still talking about Katie Beth, with no baby expected.
    
    So things can be worse.
    
    you got the kid
    I got the names
    
    Good luck and relax
    
    
    Anne
237.3He may still change his mindNEXUS::STEPHENSONWed Jun 08 1988 18:569
    Don't lose all hope yet.  My husband had liked the name Joshua Kaleb
    for years before we even met.  When I finally became pregnant he 
    still liked that name until about 2 months before the baby was due.
    
    I don't know what happened he just decided he didn't like it.
    
    Marietta 4476
    
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237.4Still wondering what the name is...EDUHCI::WARRENThu Jun 09 1988 11:238
    I wouldn't go along with a name I really didn't like.  There are
    so _many_ names out there...  Maybe you couldn't compromise and
    use the name in question as a middle name...
    
    BTW, does he know how you feel about it?
    
    -Tracy
    
237.5oopsEDUHCI::WARRENFri Jun 10 1988 11:224
    Maybe it was a Freudian slip...that last note should have said
    "...maybe you _could_ compromise..."
    
    
237.6What do you think?AIMHI::FORTIERFri Jun 10 1988 11:3221
     OK, I'll tell. The name is Samuel. Like I said it's not really
    a bad name. I just don't think it sounds good with Fortier.
    
     He knows how I feel about it but I really don't have anything else
    that sounds better. I've been such a flake lately that he probably
    isn't taking anything I say too seriously.(I've said some outrageous
    things during my crying binges)
    
     He's been trying to comprimise by telling me that he likes the
    name I've picked for a girl and will go along with that if I go
    along with his boys name. He also thinks it would be a good idea
    if we used my maiden name for the middle name. 
    
     My family has had the misfortune of having 1 male per generation,
    so my brother is the last of the name. Since he shows no sign of
    ever getting married having the name carried on has made them all
    love the name Samuel Treble Fortier. 
    
     Is this really as bad as it sounds, or could I learn to like it
    too?
    
237.7What's in a nameUSRCV1::MACFAWNGTue Jun 14 1988 13:3243
    Samuel isn't that bad.  But how many babies do you know nowadays
    with that name.  And besides it doesn't really sound like it goes
    with Fortier.
    
    In your note you mentioned that you both had names picked out for
    your babies.  Well, obviously you both agreed to a name for each
    sex.  If you had Samuel picked out before, you should have said
    something then, not wait until now to say something.
    
    My husband and I had a real hard time figuring out names.  All the
    MacFawn's have someone elses name in theirs.  Paul Douglas, Edward
    Travis and Robert Andrew were used for the names of Andrew Douglas,
    Travis Edward, Travis Douglas, Robert Paul, and Paul Andrew.  I
    though it was a little rediculous, but my husband wanted to continue
    to use this method.  
    
    So with a little working out, we came up with Ryan Paul (Paul is
    daddy's first name) and Alyssa Marie (Marie is mommy's middle name).
    It all started with a list of first and middle names.  Then we would
    sit down and keep repeating the names over and over again, until
    we found some we liked.  Then I would take those names and put them
    on another piece of paper and a couple days later, add more and
    cross more off.
    
    What is daddy's full name (DFN)?
    
    "DFN" Samuel Fortier
    Ryan Samuel Fortier
    Kevin "DFN" Fortier
    Jason ---- Fortier
    Andrew ----- Fortier
    
    I think it will take some time to work everything out.  I had to
    stay extra long in the hospital because my parents couldn't figure
    out what to name me and the doctor's wouldn't let me go home without
    a name.
    
    Good luck.  Maybe if you tell your husband that you really wish
    to name the baby something else, he might change his mind.  Also,
    you may want to find out the sex of the baby if it would make things
    easier.
    
    Gail Marie MacFawn
237.8 SamPLEXUS::V5REGISTRARThu Jun 23 1988 19:026
    I like the name "Sam," but not necessarily Samuel.
    
    If (someday) I have a baby boy, I might just go ahead and name him
    Sam, and not Samuel.
    
    Stacie
237.9-<Disagree>-DWOMV2::REOLIMon Oct 24 1988 15:382
    I think that your husband should bend a little on this. If you can't
    agree on a name, pick another one.
237.10what's in a name ?MSBIS2::FORMALARIEWed Nov 02 1988 12:2918
After the birth of my daughter (Lauren Pauline), I roomed with a woman
    who named her son Samuel and called him Sam.  Since then friends
    have had a son and named him Sam.  I have grown to like the name.
    
    3 months after my son arrived, I decided that I couldn't abide by
    his name and went to court to legally change it to Andrew Charles.
    Although it was a little confusing to the relatives, I'm really
    glad that we did it.  Changing it didn't require a lawyer and cost
    a whopping $30.  It's an option if your husband insists on Samuel
    and you decide after a bit that you would prefer something else.
    Who knows the name may grow on you.
    
    I'm expecting #3 in January - luckily my husband and I are pretty
    much in agreement.
    
    Good luck !!!
    
    Anne
237.11FROM WHAT?LDP::CORCORANMon Nov 14 1988 10:284
    RE:  .10 --  What did you change it FROM - CHARLES ANDREW??
    
    Just wondering.....
                 
237.12JM to ACMSBIS2::FORMALARIEMon Nov 21 1988 10:404
    Hi - we changed it from John Michael to Andrew Charles.  it's a
    long story !
    
    -Anne