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| 751.1 | a couple thoughts | SMAUG::FLOWERS | IBM Interconnect Eng. | Fri Apr 09 1993 09:46 | 25 |
| I can offer a little insight... We were moved to another state when I
was 11. I couldn't imagine living outside my little world that I was so
accustomed to and comfortable with. Fear of change and fear of the unknown
affects everyone... Establishing yourself for the first time in a new
environment can be scary; but it's an accomplishment with many benefits.
One thing I recall helping was the fact that the new house was vacant and we
made many trips to it to spruce it up before the big move. (Some of my old
friends came up as well during this time - so I felt like they weren't being
totally cut away...it was allowed to happen slowly in time as these things
happen.) (Funny thing, I don't recall all this being done by my parents
intentionally - but I'm sure some of it was :-)
Once we moved there, all the new adventures and new discoveries (new friends,
new school, new neighborhood, etc) kept me quite busy. Oh ya, we also moved
in June after school was over. So I had time to get familiar with the
surroundings before tackling the new school year... which was still nerve
wracking nonetheless. The funny part was, it wasn't till school started that
I met and made my best friends (in the same neighborhood).
I definitely grew with the experience and came to love the move...
Anyway, that's just some quick thoughts... Best of luck.
Dan
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| 751.2 | Check out PARENTING note | ASIC::MYERS | | Fri Apr 09 1993 11:25 | 1 |
| Check out the PARENTING notesfile. MOIRA::PARENTING
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| 751.3 | | EBBV03::CRIPPEN | | Thu Apr 15 1993 13:36 | 23 |
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I also moved from one state to another while a teenager. It was a very
difficult thing for me. My parents seemed oblivious to the trouble I
was having and the pain I was going through. I tried to tell them, but
they didn't understand. They thought I was just going through a phase
or something. I was totally alone in the whole process. And let me
tell you, it was very hard.
What ever you do, talk to your kids! Ask them how things are going,
ask them how the feel, ask them if there having problems and then
listen to what they tell you. You will most likely be unable to do
anything about it, but be sure they know that you hear them and
understand what their telling you. Also, tell them the truth. Tell
them you can't do anything to make all their problems go away, but that
you'll be there to help with those you can and that you will always
listen and that you always care.
The move is the easy part, it's all that junk that comes with it that's
hard.
Good luck!
Stu
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| 751.4 | Afraid she would forget | FSOA::BERICSON | MRO1-1/L87 DTN 297-3200 | Thu Apr 15 1993 14:56 | 5 |
| I remember talking to my daughter about moving (@3ish years) she was
afraid that she would forget her old house.. so I built a doll house
that resembled her old house.. so she could take it with her... seemed
to help her out a bit
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| 751.5 | Stay in touch | TRACTR::MACINTYRE | | Fri Apr 16 1993 11:17 | 15 |
| If you are not moving a great distance, I suggest making periodic
visits to the old area to look at the old place and say hi to the old
friends.
My family moved to Nashua from Newport, RI when I was 12. Twenty-five
years later I still return to Newport, drive by the old house and visit
some of the old stumping grounds. I take my wife and son along and
neither mind the old man retelling familiar stories. I never missed
Newport or my old friends because I never *really* left them. Besides
Newport is a nice place to visit.
If I moved from East Lipshitz, WY I might feel differently.
Marv
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| 751.6 | local move should be no problem | COAL05::WHITMAN | Acid Rain Burns my Bass | Fri Apr 16 1993 16:41 | 25 |
| < built. The house we live in now is the only home our kids (girl age
< 9 and boy age 13) have ever known. Most of their friends live right
< next to us or within two or three doors, especially my daughter's
< friends.
< and painless as possible for them. They seem to be happy about the
< move, and the fact that we are building the new house in the same
< town helps, I'm sure.
I totally disagree with the "doom and gloom" picture.
I think you're worrying about nothing. The key element that makes it a
non-issue is that both your kids are already in school in the same town. They
will still see their friends every day and will know the kids in the new
neighborhood as well (from school.)
As a kid we never stayed in one house more than 3 years, and we changed
towns and states frequently (my dad had a bad case of wonderlust I guess.)
It was no big deal. Present it as an adventure, they'll have the opportunity
to explore new places and new people.
IMHO
Al
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